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Shooting It Up in 2010

We had to put a few fires out yesterday:

Fireworks

Okay, not really. But isn’t this a cool shot? The boys dropped a smoke bomb down into this tube and L lifted it up and started pretending it was a grenade launcher.

Boys.

We had a great fourth. The day started out cloudy and I was afraid we wouldn’t be able to shoot off the bag full of crackers we had bought, but luckily, the day cleared and by the time evening rolled around, the temps were pleasant, the skies cleared and the sun came out.

It was one of the most comfortable 4th of July celebrations we’ve had in quite some time. (Usually, the temps are high and the humidity is so thick you can cut a chunk out of it).

We went over to Kevin’s parent’s house. It’s a tradition. They live on the outskirts of an outlying town with plenty of room to shoot off crackers.

Though technically, we could have shot them off at our house this year. Springfield finally lifted the ban on shooting firecrackers off within city limits – for the first time in 60 years.

But we didn’t. Kevin’s parents fired up the grill and we had hotdogs and hamburgers and homemade ice cream with chocolate sauce. (Which I had, of course).

His sisters came too, so it was really fun sitting around and catching up on everyone’s lives. The number of kids is dwindling. All of the older kids were not there – they were all off doing their own thing (many aren’t even in Missouri anymore!). But our boys and two of Kev’s sister’s kids were there, so we took advantage of their youth and watched them light all of the fireworks.

As usual, the smoke bombs were … well, da bomb.

Fireworks

There is just something about smoke bombs and boys.

Fireworks

They’ve always been Jazz’s favorite. He can easily burn (pun intended) hours lighting those suckers off and then walking through the smoke.

This year, he actually stepped on a few and walked away with multi-colored shoes.

Fireworks

Yeah. Mom wasn’t too happy about that little stunt, but hey, they’re his shoes and if he’s happy walking around in clown shoes, then who am I to protest?

The highlight of the evening was watching Kevin walk across the floor without his walker. We joke that he walks like an old man (and in fact, walks exactly like an old man), but I’m confident that his stride will smooth out and he’ll be back to normal in no time.

That was the first time his family had seen him walk without his walker and they were all impressed with his progress.

We all are.

I think it bothered Kevin that he couldn’t get out there and light up the fireworks with the boys. He’s always done that in year’s past and there were times I would look over and he was on the edge of his seat watching the boys intently. I know part of that was to make sure they were playing it safe, but some of that was his need to get out in the middle of the action. The 4th of July is one of his favorite holidays (in fact, his sister told me that he used to keep a drawer full of fireworks in his room – all year long!), so I know it sort of killed him to not be able to get out there and actively participate.

Don’t worry, honey. You’ll be out there next year.

We had splurged and bought some of the big-time ball … thingies for our grand finale. We buy these things every year and every year they don’t disappoint. However, this year, they didn’t shoot up as high as they needed to go, so we had several explode way too close to the ground and the boys had to dodge multi-colored sparks and falling debris.

It was at once both scary and fun.

This was the first time, in a long time, that Kevin’s sisters had come over and celebrated the 4th with us, and I think they really enjoyed the slower, and more relaxed, pace of our “do it ourselves” fireworks show as opposed to attending one of those big fancy, over crowded shows the churches and/or the city puts on.

We got home really late last night. The boys were tuckered out, as I knew they would be. They ran more last night than they probably have in the past year (and this INCLUDES PE class). Kevin was also really tired. In fact, he got up, had breakfast, then went back to bed. He then got up to take a shower and went back to bed after his shower.

I could tell his fatigue irritated and puzzled him, but I can’t say I was surprised. The man doesn’t sleep that well to begin with and his healing body needs all of the sleep it can get. I think his body just finally pooped out on him and FORCED him to rest.

At any rate, it’s been a really slow and relaxing day today. It’s been really nice.

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We Will Be Detained – I’m Mentally Prepared for That

Watching videos like this one …

… do nothing for my peace of mind, let me tell you.

For those of you just tuning in … (where have you been??) … on April 16th, Kevin was involved in a motorcycle accident. He was hit head on. He had to have three separate surgeries to repair his pelvis – he has scars that literally run from one side of his body to the next (AND one that covers his entire left butt cheek).

They had to surgically implant five plates and numerous screws and pins in order to put his pelvis back together again.

He will have to live with that hardware for the rest of his life.

We’re also going on vacation in about 10 days. We’re heading up to New York, then catching a cruise boat to Canada.

I’m nervous enough about the trip itself, now I’m worried about getting him through airport security.

He will set the metal detectors off – there is no question about this. We will be detained – I’m mentally prepared for this. My worry is, will he be subjected to something as humiliating as these poor people did in the video?

The doctors warned us that he will likely have to show his scars to prove he did indeed have surgery. Those scars are in his groin area. This really can’t end well, no matter how you look at it. The doctor gave us a medical card to carry with us, and we plan on taking a copy of his x-rays, but still, the TSA is unpredictable and there is no telling what he will have to endure when the time comes.

I’m not that worried about Springfield. We’re flying out of our home town and the airport is small potatoes compared to the bigger airports, so we shouldn’t (keyword: shouldn’t) have any problem starting our trip.

We’re flying out of New Jersey on the way home. I’m a little more worried about that one.

Though I completely and totally understand the need to search people and make sure no one is carrying anything dangerous on the plane, I’m not confident that the TSA agents will make wise judgment calls when it comes to our situation. I don’t have a problem with being stopped and searched, we have nothing to hide, I just hope that they treat Kevin with dignity and respect – the man has already been through so much hell, let’s not put him there again in front of a crowd of curious, and perhaps resentful, people.

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Teaching: Love: The More Excellent Way (Part Two)

Every Sunday I provide videos and valuable links to the Truth or Tradition teachings. We’ve been following the Truth or Tradition teachings for many years now and they have truly blessed our family. We have found peace and happiness through our beliefs and we walk confidently for God. My hope, by passing on this information to you, is that what you find here, or on the Truth or Tradition website, will guide you to a better, more blessed and abundant life.

If you would like to read my views on religion and how we got started with the ministry, you can read this.

Let’s get started:

Watch Part One

If you have any questions, or would like to learn more about God’s wonderful message, please visit the Truth or Tradition website. You can also keep track of the ministry through their Facebook page, their YouTube Channel, or follow them on Twitter.

Thanks for reading.

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Happy Birthday, America!

Respect the Flag

My wish to America:

That we elect members of government who do not wish you harm and who work hard at making you stronger and more beautiful than ever.

I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the republic for which it stands, one nation UNDER GOD, indivisible, with LIBERTY and justice for all.

Have a great fourth, everyone. Stay safe!

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How FREAKING cool is this?!?

WordPress.com has enabled a post by phone option – now, you can call a number, record your message, and it automatically posts on your blog!!

This is going to really come in handy when we go to New York!

You can find the instructions on how to do this on your blog here.

The only problem is, there is no editing. What you record is what posts. I wish it would go to the blog editor first, but hey, I’m not going to complain because this is too cool.

Thanks for listening!!

Talk to you soon!

Can We Talk?

Disagreeing with Your Partner’s Parenting Decisions

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Our children are not our friends.

We are FRIENDLY to our children, but we are not their FRIENDS.

And I could be wrong, but I firmly believe that it’s (nearly?) impossible to be your child’s parent AND their friend at the same time.

At least, until the child matures and moves out of the house.

I know there are moments that the boys hate me. I’m prepared for it, I expect it. But I also know that when they feel that way, they’re more upset about not getting their way more than actually hating me.

At least, I hope so.

And though I would be lying if I said that it didn’t bother me when they’re upset with me, I get over it, I chock the anger, the dirty looks, the mumbled insults, to simply being part of my job as their mother.

It comes with the territory.

I think because I already possess this mental awareness in my mother arsenal I’m pretty straight forward when it comes to discipline. These are the rules. You follow the rules, we’ll have rainbows and unicorns. You disregard the rules and the hounds of hell will be released, chase you down, and melt your face with their fiery breath.

Not to be overly dramatic or anything. 🙄

I know I sound like a broken record here, but Kevin and I have always agreed on the discipline front:

He steps back and allows me to be the bad guy.

It’s worked out beautifully so far. 😀

Seriously, I have usually been the one to dole out the punishments. When the boys were smaller, I whacked them with a wooden spoon whenever they wouldn’t listen to me or were breaking the rules.

Yes, I spanked the boys.

Notice I didn’t say beat the boys.

BIG difference. HUGE, actually.

At any rate, they quickly got the message – mom meant business. And luckily, (because contrary to popular belief I didn’t enjoy it), I didn’t have to get the wooden spoon out very often.

Now that the kids are older, we get them where it really hurts – their games and computers.

We have a deal – give 100% of your attention to school, make the grades you’re capable of making and everything is cool.

Those grades drop, or you start disregarding house rules, and we confiscate the power cords to your computer and/or game consoles/DS’s.

A couple of times of being deprived of their favorite past time and POW, instant obedience.

Kevin and I have agreed on how to discipline the boys, but we’ve not always agreed on the length of their punishment.

It’s funny, but when I’m doing the disciplining, it doesn’t really bother me that much when the boys get mad/sad, etc.

But when Kevin disciplines them for something (and it doesn’t happen often, he has the patience of saints), I find my first instinct is to protect the boys.

“Now honey, don’t you think that’s a little harsh? After all, they only did _______” fill in the blank.

Which only serves to irritate Kevin more.

And rightly so.

I don’t question his judgment in front of the boys. And I rarely try and usurp his authority with the boys, overall. But I have been successful in talking him down from an anger high and reducing their sentences a bit.

Because even though I’m tough and a bit cold-hearted, I am fair.

The boys learned, early on, that trying to divide and conquer us was a waste of time. Though we may disagree on the specifics, Kevin and I are on the same page overall.

I think that strength, that strong parental front, has helped make our marriage stronger over the years, too.

Your turn: what happens when you disagree with your partner’s parenting decisions?

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