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September 17th Thursday Thought

Today’s question is …

The most surprised you’ve ever been….

I don’t like surprises. I like surprising people but not don’t surprise me. There’s something about losing that small bit of control over myself in the split second that I’m taken aback by something.

With that said, I haven’t been surprised often in my life. I think it’s largely due to the fact that the people in my life know that’s a sure fire way to piss me off so they don’t do it.

However, there have been a few times I’ve been pleasantly, and not so pleasantly, surprised in my life.

When I was pregnant with Blake and my water broke at 3:00 AM eight weeks before he was due to be born. I was in denial. I convinced myself I was NOT in labor because it was way too early and I just sucked it up and went back to bed. (My water broke on the toilet – a little TMI for you). When the contractions became too much to bear I finally cried uncle and called my doctor’s office at 9:00 AM. Whey they heard my story they told me to immediately go to the ER – Blake was born nearly three hours later – a whopping 4 lbs and 12 ounces. (He spent six weeks in the NICU because his lungs hadn’t fully developed). That was an unpleasant, and pleasant, surprise. And it shows how incredibly naive I was. To be fair, it was my first pregnancy and I was clearly clueless.

This next surprise was in our first house together. It was a rental house. Somehow, and I still can’t believe he pulled it off, Kevin hid a HUGE curio case in our spare bedroom. He covered it with a quilt, or something and I just never saw it. I know that sounds crazy, how can you not see a huge curio case? But I never went into that bedroom, we used it as storage and it seems like there were quite a few other big pieces in that room and I just never … realized that it was in there. He unveiled the curio case on Christmas morning. I had wanted something to put all of my Precious Moment figurines in, I was getting quite the collection and no place to put them, and he was tired of seeing them accumulate, I suppose. Anyway, I was GENUINELY surprised, and impressed, that he managed to pull one over on me. I’ll never forget that Christmas, it was fun. (Side note: Speaking of Precious Moments – are those still a thing? Kevin and I were talking about them the other day. I wonder if they are worth anything? Because I have quite a few to get rid of if that’s the case).

One of my most unpleasant surprises was in 2010. The kids were at school, Kevin was on his was to work, and I was pattering around the house when I got a call from an unknown number. Of course, I didn’t answer the phone because 1. I hate talking on the phone and 2. I especially hate talking to salespeople. But I (thankfully) checked the message right away). It was from a man I didn’t know telling me there had been an accident. I could hear the sirens in the background. He said that Kevin had been in a motorcycle accident and they were taking him to the ER. Kevin had asked the man to call me. I have never experienced such raw fear before that moment. I immediately changed into presentable clothes (because of course, I had been cleaning house and looked like something a dog would have dragged into his master’s house) and raced to the hospital. Kevin had shattered his pelvis and they were shipping him to a medical-teaching school for specialized treatment. (i.e. to put the bag o’ glass back into a pelvis – that’s how the ER doctor described his pelvis to me). I will never forget that stomach dropping, nausea-inducing, moment in my life.

Maybe that’s why I don’t like surprises overall, because the surprises that I remember are not GOOD surprises. Hmmm ….

Your turn.


Podcast: What is a Conservative?


Episode description:

Do you know the difference between political “party” beliefs? We thought we did until we did a little research and discovered that question is a lot more complex that we first thought. Listen as we break down the different political parties and what each party believes. What party do you identify with?

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Something Big Happened on September 11, 2001

Remember 9/11?

There is a whole generation of people who were never taught about that fateful day.

And I think a lot of people who were alive on that day have forgotten.

History is not being taught to our children. Progressives want to erase history so they can re-write it. History is necessary so that we can learn from it and not make the same mistakes again.

This video brought tears to my eyes. I will NEVER FORGET that day. I was on a shuttle bus, on my way to college campus when the bus driver suddenly turned the sound up on his radio. It took a few minutes for people to stop talking and start listening. It was shocking. I made it to campus just in time to watch the second plane dive into the second tower. The busy campus was silent. Everyone stood stock still and stared. Walking through campus after that was like walking through a graveyard. People were zombies. Many were crying. It was horrific to think of all of those innocent lives being burned in the towers.

And then, watching them fall and people running to try and escape the huge, toxic smoke clouds chase them down the street.

I have to wonder, would Americans have the same reaction today? Would something like this unite us once again, or have we eroded our patriotism down so far into the gutter that people would actually cheer?

I’m afraid we all know the answer to that question.

I truly don’t understand the riots and the violence right now. I guess I could at first because people were thinking (incorrectly, I might add), that police exist to hunt black people down. Police exist to maintain law and order. It’s easy to understand – don’t break the law. And if you find yourself in a situation where the police have been called, don’t resist arrest. Fight it out in front of a judge.

These brats that riot, loot and execute people who don’t agree with them need to be shipped off to Cuba, or Africa, or China, where they don’t have rights and they exist to serve a communist government. You think America is unjust? Try stepping outside her borders.

September 11, 2001.


Can We Talk?

September 10th Thursday Thought

Today’s question is …

In what ways would you like to change the world?

Opinions. I’d like to teach people to listen with an open mind, to weigh all of the options, from both opposing fences, and then to come to a fair, logical and informed decision.

Too many times, people are only getting one side of the story. Whether that’s from media, from friends, from family … how many times have you listened to a friend complain about a spouse, or something that happened at work, or a time when they got into trouble and you based your opinion on what that friend told you? You reared your righteous indignation on behalf of your friend and automatically rallied for your friend’s predicament or side?

Only to find out later, that there were TWO sides to the story and lo and behold, your friend wasn’t as “innocent” as he/she led you to believe?

Or you listen/watch a news story and you get worked up over THE INJUSTICE of it all, only to find out later that OOPS, that news outlet didn’t exactly give you all of the details and maybe, just maybe, it’s not as cut and dried as they (the news outlets) wanted you to believe.

Nothing – NOTHING- irritates me more than to not be given all the facts.

Another example: teaching evolution in schools. Okay. Fine. Teach evolution, but also teach creationism. Then leave it up to the individual to make his/her own informed decision. It’s insulting to only give one side of the story and then to expect people to just blindly agree with that side.

Facts are pesky little things, but they’re also necessary little things.

So, moral of this post? Get ALL the facts, THEN make up your mind.

Your turn …


Podcast: Uproar Over a Tweet Taken Out of Context


Episode description:

We sort of hate to board the crazy train from President Trump’s tweet this week, but we couldn’t resist giving our two cents worth. All of this crazy actually came from a portion of President Trump’s tweet and when you read the entire tweet, the portion everyone is up-in-arms about was actually taken out of context and does not mean what everyone is trying very hard to make it mean. Is anyone embarrassed? We think they should be. Also, don’t try and make something out of nothing, context is key.


Podcast: Right From Us – What Happened?

Season 1, Episode 8

Episode description:

What happened to 2020? It started out great, then BAM. We got the wind knocked out of us and we started looking at our neighbors with suspicion, we started isolating ourselves from humanity and we had to actively come up with a strategy to find toilet paper. We all have different stories and experiences from the nightmare commonly known as COVID – here’s our story.


Podcast: My Fasting Journey

Guess what I’m trying ….?

I thought about doing something with my YouTube channel but that means I would have to make sure I’m presentable and … nah … I would rather talk to you in my PJ’s – who’s the wiser??

Not sure how much I will upload a podcast, but if you’re interested, here is my podcast page:

This episode I update you guys on my fasting journey. And it’s been a journey, so far. Take a listen! I’m rather long winded so if you don’t have time to listen at your desk, take me on the go! It’s on Spotify as well.

One last thing, the YouTuber I mention in my podcast, Autumn Bates – she has A LOT of really good information on fasting, if you’re interested.

*TALK” to you soon!

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Appreciate Now

This video really resonated with me….

I think I can appreciate this message now because I’m older.

A new year, a new beginning, a new chapter … and a time to reflect on the past. Which I don’t do, ever.

I’m a future sort of gal. I tend to only look to the future, plan for upcoming events, always thinking of what is to come. And because I tend to do that, I tend to forget to appreciate the now.

Though I feel like I’m better than I used to be.

I think Kevin is focused on the NOW. He’s always working on projects and doing things that need attention NOW. But he’s so busy living in the now that I don’t think he takes the time to appreciate the now. I’m working on coaching him to slow down, take it easy, appreciate the moments. His tasks? Will still be there whether he takes ten minutes or an entire afternoon to just STOP and appreciate the fact that he stopped and paid attention to the now.

I could be busier, sure. But I don’t want to be busier. I like having my quiet, solitude moments. I like parking my butt on my couch and reading books, or putting in earbuds and watching YouTube videos. I appreciate the moments perhaps TOO much.

But time doesn’t seem to be moving as quickly since I’ve been less busy, less productive.

I just wish I could slow time down a bit more so I can appreciate the moments even more.

Time is precious. It’s important to make the most of this precious time. But it’s also important to appreciate the previous moments as well.

It’s all about balance. And finding that balance is perhaps the most challenging part of living life.

Daily Prompts

Thoughts: 1:2:20

Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution that you kept?

No and here’s why.

I think my resolutions have always been someone else’s resolutions. Not to say I haven’t wanted those things I’ve resolved to do but rather, they were goals that weren’t that important or realistic for my lifestyle.

Not to mention, I just get bored with trying after a while.

I’m lazy. I really am. And I’m terribly selfish with my time. I think that selfishness stems from the fact that I spend the majority of my time helping/serving others. I work in the medical field so my day comprises of being available to our patients and at my doctor’s beck and call.

I don’t feel like I truly have time for ME. Because given the choice, I WOULDN’T do this job – it goes against every grain of my body – but somehow, I’m good at it. And I’ve gotten to the point where I feel comfortable doing the job and I like my co-workers so I don’t see myself starting over any time soon.

Plus, I’m just too old to start over. I could, but I don’t think it would be a good thing, overall, to do that.

I think if alternate day fasting has taught me anything, (and yes, I’m still doing that), it’s that I need to do what works for ME. Granted, I don’t know what that is until I try different things but I need to stop and recognize when something is not working and try something else. And NOT beat myself up over failing.

Ultimately, I’m scared of failing. I’m scared of wasting precious time because again, I don’t have a lot of time TO waste. I think that’s my biggest hang up with writing – I’m scared to fail. But how can I succeed if I don’t fail?

So, though it’s good to have goals, I think it’s more important to have REALISTIC goals for YOU and YOUR life.

Daily Prompts

Thoughts: 1:1:20

I’m asking the obligatory first of the year question:

What goals do you have for this year?

I want to write more and finish a novel. Notice I didn’t say it has to be a GOOD novel, but something tangible, something workable.

I want to do a better job of balancing my work/personal life and take more days off. Life is too short.

I want to blog more.

I want to successfully complete a bullet journal. (More on that later).

I want to take more pictures.

I want to improve my mental/physical self.

I want to make money from my writing … somehow.

I want to cash in our frequent flyer miles and take a long weekend trip with Kevin (in addition to our yearly cruise).

Your turn: What goals do you have for this year?