Abundant Life

Teaching: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones to Success (Part 4)

Every Sunday I provide videos and valuable links to the Truth or Tradition teachings. We’ve been following the Truth or Tradition teachings for many years now and they have truly blessed our family. We have found peace and happiness through our beliefs and we walk confidently for God. My hope, by passing on this information to you, is that what you find here, or on the Truth or Tradition website, will guide you to a better, more blessed and abundant life.

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[The following article is an edited transcription of the June 2005 Tape/CD of the Month, Failing Forward by Dan Gallagher.]

Let God define success for us. In fact, that is the third point of this teaching. How are we defining success? If you look to the world, you are not going to get a proper definition. Their definition includes wealth, fame, beauty, material goods such as: money, cars, fat paychecks, big bank accounts. Is that how you are defining it? Do you feel defeated because your bank account is not that big? Are you having financial difficulty? Maybe you are not the most handsome or most beautiful woman on the street. Maybe you have a car that is broken down. I am sure that many of us do, but that is not how we need to define success. That is how the world defines it, and do not let the Devil bait you into that trap. [For further study, read What Should be a Christian’s Attitude Towards Money and Material Possessions?]

Do not misunderstand me. I am not saying that anything is wrong with these things in and of themselves, but it is how we relate to them. It is our perspective about them. A lot is wrong with them, though, if the possession of them or the quantity of them is how you are defining your success. I say this because God says that He has chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise, so we need to examine our definitions. One of the things that always keeps me sharp in this area is reminding myself that discipline does not necessarily feel very successful.

John 15:1 and 2
(1) “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener.
(2) He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.

I do not imagine that too much is there that feels good about the pruning process. I have been pruned a lot in my life. I know when God is disciplining me, because He disciplines us like a father disciplines his children. I have four daughters, and they are wonderful women, now. They have all been raised, but it was very hard. They did not enjoy discipline, but yet God’s testimony says, “Every branch that bears fruit, he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.” Well, are you feeling pruned? If you are not fruitful, you are not being pruned. That is what he says that every branch that bears fruit is going to be pruned. When you are enduring the pruning process, you have got to learn to fail forward. You have to learn to press through that.

Another example of how we define success (something that we need to remember), is that persecution never feels very successful.

Matthew 5:11
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.

He said, “Blessed are you when people insult you.” Do people insult you? Have people falsely accused you? Do you feel persecution? I am telling you this: the testimony of Jesus Christ is that you are blessed if you are persecuted. Are you being insulted or persecuted or being falsely accused because of him? If that is the source of your persecution, you are pretty blessed. You are a successful person. You need to remember that. I know that sometimes I am accused of things which I really do not have a witness in my heart about and it hurts. It hurts a lot. It feels like eating dirt with gravel and glass in it, but yet the testimony of the Word of God is that if you are walking, serving the Father, walking in His will, pursuing a holy and righteous life style, you are going to be insulted. You are going to be persecuted, and you are going to be falsely accused.

John 15:20
Remember the words I spoke to you: ‘No servant is greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also.

Is your life showing some signs of persecution? I remember a story that I heard years ago. The dean of a Christian seminary used to bring in all the students and interview them. He brought in a young man one day and asked him how his life was going. The young man said, “Fine! Everything is going great, wonderful.” The dean looked really distressed. The young man said, “Why? What is wrong?” The dean said, “Then you must not being doing something right because if you are really walking with the Lord, you ought to be feeling some heat.” I really believe this is the testimony of Scripture. Do you have some heat coming against you? Do you have some adversity? Are you feeling some defeat? If you are, then you are probably doing the right thing? That is the perspective that you need to have. You need to be able to fail forward. All great achievers are given multiple reasons to believe that they are a failure, but in spite of that they persevere.

I would like to move on now and take a look at some of the myths that surround failure. In fact, I call this part of the teaching “Let’s Do A Little Myth Busting.”

First myth:

Failure Is Avoidable—that is a myth. Failure is not avoidable. We all fail. You have got to realize that when you fail, when you trip, or when you stumble, it is not the end, and it is not avoidable.

Second myth:

People Think of Failure as an Event. It is not a single event. It is usually a series of bad decisions. I know many times as I am counseling people, and they tell me of the specific instance where they stumbled, but yet as we talk, and you back that process up, we find a series of thought patterns and processes that led to the whole series of events that culminated into the failure (event) that they want to hold on to. It is not an event; it is a series of bad decisions. Just think of the physical world. Years ago a popular hotel had a walk-way (bridge) that collapsed during a large celebration. When they went back and did a failure analysis on it, it was not any single thing that caused the failure of that bridge. The first aspect was that too many people were on the bridge. The second aspect was that all the people were dancing and swaying to the music. The third aspect was that the contractor had shorted some of the material and bolts, in some way. The fourth aspect was that the engineer had not properly calculated all the length and span and load on the bridge. You see, although the failure was an event, what caused the failure was a series of events and not any single thing. Many times when they do failure analysis of physical events, they find that it is not any one thing but rather a series of bad decisions (bad moves) which resulted in that event. I would bet you that many times this is a similar thing in your life. How about, for example, your health? I receive calls from people asking to be ministered to. Someone may be having heart trouble, but the fact is that they have lived a life where they have eaten the wrong foods or smoked cigarettes or lived under stress, and now they want healing for their heart; however, they have sown into bad health situations. It was a series of events that led up to this heart situation.

Third myth:

Failure is Objective Verses Being Subjective. The majority of times failure is subjective. It is a matter of perspective. That is what we have to do, gain the proper perspective, a healthy perspective. Yes, you may have made a mistake, but you can change your perspective about that single event (defeat) so that you can learn from it and move forward. The fact is that I have made many mistakes, but I always tell myself, “Well, at least now I know what not to do.” This is a great perspective; therefore, it was not a failure. It is not a failure because now I know “that did not work,” and now I know not to do that anymore. I change my perspective on it; it is a great place to be.

Fourth myth:

Failure is an Enemy. We always think of failure as an enemy. We do not want failure to come anywhere near us. I would really like to encourage you to make failure a friend. Not that you want to desire it or to come to you, but the fact is that it is going to come to you. Remember, failure is not avoidable, but when it does come, look at failure as merely feedback. I heard a man a number of years ago say, “I never look at things as failures; I look at it as feedback.” Right? Well, now you know what does not work. You need to tell yourself, “It is not that I am a failure, but that I failed at doing something.” A big difference can be seen between these two.

Fifth myth:

Failure is Irreversible. Many times we get ourselves stuck in a hole (stuck in a pit). We think that there is no way for us to climb out. Let me tell you something. I was charged with 17 felony counts. I plead guilty to two felonies. I sit here today with no criminal record. That is by God’s mercy and grace. At one time, I did not have any idea of how to get out from underneath that. Also, I had lost a civil lawsuit of wrong things that I had done. I was 5.1 million dollars in debt, but again by God’s mercy and grace, I was able to work out a settlement with the people that I owed the money. I was able to pay them back in a huge way. Today, I am able to work in ministry. When I tell you that I have been a failure, I am not making that up. I have made plenty of mistakes in my life, but by God’s mercy and grace, failure is reversible! It is a myth to think that failure is irreversible. Don’t get me wrong. Consequences do occur for actions, and what you sow, you will reap. We do have a powerful God, and I know that from the record of Scripture—look at the life of David. I have not murdered anybody. I have never done things like that, but yet he was called a “man after God’s own heart.” Moses murdered someone, yet he was called “the friend of God.” He knew God face to face. Failure is reversible, but it is dependent upon you for changing the trajectory of your life. It is dependent upon you to make up your mind to walk holy and godly. You can do that. You can change. You do not have to live in this failure, defeat, or adversity. The power is within your own life.

Sixth myth:

We Think That Failure is Final. It is not over until it is over. Your life is not over until you stand before the Lord Jesus Christ and he looks you in the face and you hear his testimony of your life. I am looking for the day when I can stand before Jesus Christ, and he says, “Well done brother; come on in buddy, good job.” That is going to be the testimony that I will accept. Until it is over, it is not over. I have made many mistakes, and maybe so have you, but it is not over until it is over. Let us accept the testimony of God and Jesus Christ. Let us change our perspective; let us learn to fail forward.

In the next part of this teaching I would like to review four keys on how you can remove yourself from failure. I think that these are powerful and practical steps. They have worked for me and they have worked for many people. I would like you to just consider them.

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Don’t Fool with Mother Nature

“Mother never had a sense of humor.” He sat a moment staring at his hands before continuing. “Like the time I bought a can of fake snow and sprayed down her precious orange tree just outside our kitchen window.”

“What happened when she saw the tree?”

He smiled. “She nearly had a heart attack. Her expression was priceless. I couldn’t sit down for two days after that stunt but by God, it was worth it,” he sputtered out a maniacal laugh.

“Times up, Mr. Holden,” the prison guard addressed him.

Holden watched his client leave and swallowed back his distaste.

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Write up to 100 words, fact or fiction….

This is a themed writing meme hosted by Jenny Matlock. The goal is to write something that does not exceed 100 words (not including said prompt). The prompt is the picture above.

Day-By-Day

Office Work

I’m sitting here, munching on half of an apple (I gave the other half to Dude) and thinking about the french film that Kevin and I just watched in his instant Netflix queue. What is it about reading subtitles that make a movie so intriguing? Is it the fact that you have no choice but to pay attention and read the subtitles or risk becoming hopelessly lost within the story? Or does reading the subtitles put a voice in your head and make the characters just that much more interesting?

At any rate, the movie was Amélie and it was truly adorable. The character was adorably shy and you couldn’t help but love her. I’d recommend it but I warn you, there are boobs.

But it’s French, would you expect anything less?

It was a good day.

I met Kevin at his office and together, we worked on putting his office together. Not physically, but we ordered business cards (I ordered myself some too – from Vista Print, because they were free, except for the postage), I recorded the voice mail for his office, (because he thinks my voice sounds so much better than his even though it’s HIS office and HIS business), we brainstormed some ideas for his logo and even nabbed some pretty good design ideas for his website design. I reserved his domain name and we contacted the man who is in charge of putting up lettering on the business doors. We mapped it out, know where we want to put it and now we’re hoping the cost doesn’t give me a heart attack.

We even went to Office Depot and bought a “Will be back at such-and-such time” sign.

Things are moving right along.

I spent the entire day at the office with Kevin, and came home – Kevin had driven his truck so we had separate vehicles. I worry that we’re spending too much time together – living together, working together, but Kevin doesn’t think it will be a problem.

And I don’t either … right now. But since I don’t exactly fancy plotting his death some day because I’m so sick of being around him, I still plan on finding a little something-something for me to do just to put a little space between us. Kevin mentioned he saw a lot of clerical jobs available with the hospital …. Hmm … I never thought of working in the health care industry.

I like it.

Dude graduates in exactly 130 days. This thought is never far from my mind.

Did I mention life is good?

Life

Post-Op Appointment

(Alternatively titled: I HAD a lot of guts)

I had my stomach staples removed today. All I can say to that is …

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ………

It’s so NICE not to have to worry about bending over and pinching myself. I don’t know if you’ve ever had staples, but removing them is really not supposed to hurt. The operative words being “not suppose to”. However, because I’m so awesome and heal rather quickly, my body started absorbing them so they were embedded enough to HURT when the tech plucked them out.

Kevin actually sat there and watched and he could tell they were hurting me, and not just by my tortured, grim, I’m-going-to-be-brave-and-not-squeal-like-a-pig face either. He could tell by the amount of skin that was being tugged along with those nasty staples that I wasn’t exactly having the time of my life, don’t you know.

I know you’re wincing and crossing your legs right about now; sorry about that.

I had a list of questions with me. My first being, “am I supposed to be hurting like this?”

I had the urge to push this morning (don’t you love how I no longer have a problem sharing something so embarrassing and intimate as my bowel movements with you all? You’re welcome), and I’m afraid I pushed just a tad too much. I had this RIPPING pain (though I don’t think it actually ripped – oh please God, I hope nothing ripped) and I immediately stopped, though I still felt the urge to push. It was really quite uncomfortable and terribly frustrating. The pain is coming from the lower left-hand side of my abdomen, which coincidentally, is where the doctor sewed my colon back together again. When I asked how hard I could push, my doctor said, “You shouldn’t be pushing at all.”

Riiiiight, my poo is just supposed to slip out.

Actually, yes, it is. At least until my body heals. So I will have to concentrate on eating lots of fiber, drinking lots of liquid and building my stock pile of reading material near the porcelain goddess. (Again, aren’t you GLAD I share so much with ya’ll?)

So I learned what NOT to do this morning. It was the first time I had really dared to try anything harder than a grunt and OUCH, I won’t be trying that again any time soon.

BUT, at least I don’t feel like my guts are spilling out whenever I stand up anymore, so we’re making progress. Yay!

Next I asked about scar tissue, as in, will I have a problem with it some time down the road. My doctor wasn’t very reassuring – he said “probably.” Ugh. But he said it likely won’t be for a very long time and if that happens, they sort of put a bag on me and wait for my intestines to settle down and it usually works itself out. It’s very rare that they have to actually cut into me and take care of it. I’m praying I never have an issue with scar tissue at all. I’m optimistic that way.

Finally, I asked the BIG question – “What in the world happened?? How much did you cut out of me?”

Let me illustrate what the doctor said to me.

Here is a shot of a normal large intestine:

Pretty, right?

And here is the section that I had trouble with:

It was the Sigmoid part of my colon, which in essence means, “S” shaped.

Apparently, I had a twist about here:

and the intestine above the twist was bloated and irritated. The intestine below the twist was also bloated and loose – “floppy” is how the doctor described it.

So all of that floppy intestine after the twist needed to be removed. Guess how much intestine that turned out to be?

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Are you ready for this?? 96.2 CM. That works out to be just a smidgen over THREE FEET.

THREE FEET!!!!!

It’s like I had a toddler-sized chunk of intestine rolled up inside of me. No WONDER I couldn’t pass anything!!

I was floored. I mean, I was truly shocked. When I asked what in the world I had done to cause this to happen, he said, “blame your parents. It’s genetic.”

WHAT?!?! No way! I hadn’t heard of anyone in my family having any issues like that (though I suspect my grandmother might have had something similar) and when I talked to my mom, she couldn’t think of anyone who had had intestinal issues like that so … what the heck?? I’m hoping it was just some fluke. When I told the boys about it they groaned and said, “Great.” I’m sure they’ll be fine, but wow, I’m having a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact that he had to remove three feet of my intestine. He said I was like in his top two patients that he had to remove so much intestine from. He also said it was very unusual for someone my age (i.e. young) to have something like that happen to. He said he usually didn’t see cases like mine except in people in their 70’s and 80’s.

I told him I should be in the medical books.

He laughed.

I was serious. Aren’t you seriously impressed knowing that I had THREE FEET of intestine removed from my body? On second thought, don’t answer that.

Anyhoo, I am under strict orders not to lift anything heavier than 10 pounds and absolutely NO EXERCISING for at least six weeks, though I can still walk.

I’m okay. My insides are pretty sore today (I thought I was going to DIE when I had to use my abdominal muscles to lay back on the examining table and they haven’t quite recovered from that yet), and the area around my incision is numb, not to mention I won’t be showing off my belly any time soon thanks to a wicked looking scar (like I would have anyway), but hey, I can poop now so it’s all good.

Life

Welcome to K and K Accounting

So, the office thing …

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This just sort of “happened.” One day we were talking about it, we went and looked at this office, the price was right, we liked the location (close to home, right off a busy highway) and BAM, Kevin signed the lease and moved in.

Actually, he signed the lease while I was at the clinic trying to figure out what was going on with my intestinal issues. In fact, he was talking to the landlord and setting up the details at the exact moment the clinic said to me, “Um. We can’t help you and by the way, you need to go to the ER, as in NOW.”

I text him in the middle of that meeting – talk about bad timing.

But that’s the story of our lives, whenever anything new and/or big happens, it HAPPENS quickly. I mean, this was planned, sort of. Kevin has been talking about starting his own accounting company for as long as I’ve known him and considering he’s a CPA and can do anything from audits to taxes, he’s really a one-man show anyway. (Did I mention he has over 20 years experience in the field??)

Our landlord is the nicest man! He has really bent over backwards to accommodate us and make us feel welcome. In fact, the desk and credenza you see Kevin using in the picture above came with the office, so that saved us a ton of money right there.

The furniture you see in the welcome area is from his dad’s shop. (He sells arch supports and is planning on closing down later this year). The file cabinets were in his office at home (that is now his music studio) so that just left buying a desk for me. He found one online for a pretty good price, but the snag is the delivery. It will come in about three different boxes and the delivery guys will leave it at the curb. ??????? I don’t know, that’s just how they do business. So Kevin will have to make sure he’s available the day it’s delivered otherwise the center will have three mysterious looking boxes sitting around when it’s delivered.

So here we go. We’re trying the small business thing. This might not be the best time to do this considering we have a president who appears to be anti-small business, but we’re going to give it a shot. Kevin will be freelancing for his old company (they are still wrapping things up from their liquidation in ’09) and he knows a lot of people in the accounting industry here in town, so hopefully when word gets out he’ll start getting some clients. He plans on advertising on Criagslist as well as in our local paper. I’m purchasing a domain name for him today so I can start building his website (I’ll let you know when it’s finished), and he was supposed to contact our landlord today to get the name of the guy who does the lettering for both the building and the door.

The name of the company is K and K Accounting and Kevin has already applied and been approved for a business license, so things are progressing nicely. We’re really excited about this new venture, but I’ll be honest, I’m also a bit nervous – I’ll rest easier when he gets a few clients under his belt. I plan on expanding my website business as well as try and find a part-time job in some office somewhere. (Kevin sent me a bunch of links to some job sites today, as a matter of fact). Now that my intestinal issues have been resolved (knock on wood), I should be set to work without any complications. (Again, knock on wood).

While I was in the hospital, Kevin not only took care of me, he spent a lot of time putting his office together as well as took care of the boys and he’s never been happier. He LOVES staying busy and it’s really fun to see his eyes light up whenever he talks about going into “HIS” office. I think he missed it and he certainly looks forward to being his own boss.

I feel really bad that I wasn’t available to help him put his office together, but I’m looking forward to having my own office space to do something with. Kevin acts pretty excited for me as well, though I suspect he’s excited about me getting out of the house and into some actual clothes (as opposed to sweats. I never leave the house so WHY would I dress up every day? It doesn’t make sense. But now I have a chance to get out into the working world and I’ll be honest, I’m looking forward to getting out of the house. I’ve been cooped up at home for the past seven years, it’s definitely time for a change).

I met Kevin for lunch today and took a short video of his office. (By the way, he has given me permission to talk about all of this as well as give you the name of his company. The more who know about this venture, the better, right??) I’m really proud of him and I’m quite confident that he’ll make this work. Kevin is the type of man who really puts 150% into anything that he does and he always succeeds. I’m really excited to see where he takes this next chapter of our lives.

Thanks for watching and wish us luck!

Abundant Life

Audio Teaching: The Last Week Of Christ’s Life

by by John Schoenheit
Here is a masterful exposition of what the Word of God actually says about one of the most critical weeks in “His-story.” Tradition has greatly distorted much of the beautiful truth about the events leading up to and including our Savior’s death and resurrection, and this teaching should greatly enhance your love for the written Word of God in all its perfection. It should also increase your love for the Living Word, the Lord Jesus Christ.

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