This has been cross-posted at Kevin’s CaringBridge web page.
It’s been a while, hasn’t it!? Let’s see if I can catch you all up …
The last time I wrote, we were getting ready to leave for our family vacation (the vacation that we weren’t sure we would still be able to take but that Kevin insisted he could handle); we not only went to New York City back in July for our family vacation, I think it’s pretty safe to say Kevin completely conquered New York City.
I’ll be honest, the trip was terribly hard on Kevin. We took his walker, but the only time he used it was when we walked around Central Park. The rest of the time? He used his cane. Though we tried to find the wheelchair accessible entrances to the subway, more often than not, there wasn’t one close by so Kevin also climbed a lot of stairs.
A LOT of stairs.
Looking back at our vacation pictures, Kevin looks pale and gaunt and you can just tell he’s not feeling the best. And though we took frequent breaks so he could catch his breath, we still worked him pretty hard. But the man kept up our rigorous pace around the city and rarely complained. In short, he was a real trooper.
And do you know that ever since that trip, he’s continued to do his normal day-to-day activities (even getting into our crawl space to fix our sump pump!) so that now? You would never even know he had been in the hospital for five weeks, had three surgeries, had his pelvis completely restructured and in essence, had to re-learn how to walk all over again.
I know I’ve said this before, but I have to say it again, the fact that Kevin not only survived this type of accident (and we’ve learned over the months, from both police officers and doctors, that people who were in similar accidents most times don’t survive), but went on to walk and resume his life as if nothing traumatic had ever happened is truly a miracle.
God was walking with Kevin the day of the accident and has not left his side these past seven months.
On Tuesday, November 16th, it will have been seven months since he was hit head on and left for dead on the side of the road on a beautiful spring day.
Though I will never forget that time period, seeing him lying in the hospital bed, seemingly unhurt and then being shocked to the core of my being when me and the boys saw his x-rays and learned that he would not, in fact, be spending just one night in the hospital but in fact, weeks in the hospital, it doesn’t seem real now. Now that Kevin is back on his feet and doing all of his normal activities, I look at him and have a hard time remembering him lying in traction, pins drilled into his shin bones in order to force his body to remain immobile until they could schedule him for surgery.
Though I will never forget what we all went through the last half of April 2010, it truly is a blessing that time heals all wounds. For though Kevin still walks with a slight limp, and the tendons in his right foot still haven’t healed completely (he sort of clip-clops as he walks), he gets better week after week and I know, without a shadow of a doubt, he will soon conquer these small setbacks and be fully functional and ready to tackle whatever life throws at him.
Our family has changed, we’ve all been through a lot these past months, but I firmly believe that we are all stronger, both emotionally and spiritually as individuals and as a family because of that fateful spring day.
This will be the last time I update Kevin’s Caring Bridge page, the doctor’s have given him a clean bill of health and he does not have to go back unless he develops problems. We have once again achieved normalcy (thank you God) and I have faith that we will all continue to grow stronger.
It’s hard for me to put into words just how much we have appreciated all of your kind words, thoughts, prayers and help these past months. I pray that our journey has inspired you to work hard, never give up and to trust our wonderful Lord and Savior to help guide you in your personal journey.
And now, it’s only fitting to give this journal up to Kevin for a final word.
Sorry that there have not been any posts to CaringBridge about my progress since July. Karen wanted me to write the last post, and I have been procrastinating.
I just read the last few articles that Karen posted. Everything has really changed since that time. I am still improving every day and I have essentially recovered from my injuries. Sometimes I am a little stiff if I sit still for very long, but I have figured out a way to avoid the stiffness…just don’t sit still. I am walking, driving, playing music, causing trouble, and doing everything that I was doing before the accident. (Well, almost everything. Karen has prohibited me from driving any vehicle with fewer than 4 wheels or doing anything involving danger.)
Last week I went to my orthopedist. He was very happy with my progress and he released me. Basically he said don’t come back unless something is really hurting or falling off.
We have been keeping track of the lady that crashed into me on case.net. Since my accident, in August, she added yet another DWI to her list of offenses, which now total over 13. The prosecuting attorney called me last week to say that they were finally going to file the felony “Leaving the Scene of the Accident” charge against her for my accident. At this point I just want her taken off the road so that nobody else is hurt or killed. That reminds me. Please make sure that you have the best uninsured/underinsured motorist coverage that you can afford. Approximately 20 – 30% of drivers do not have insurance and the drivers that don’t have insurance are usually the really bad ones. I thank God that he gave me the thought to increase our UIM coverage a few years ago.
I want to say a big thank you to everyone for your prayers and support over the last few months. I couldn’t have made it without your help.
ADDED: How ironic is it that the moment we finish his CaringBridge page, he comes down with a WICKED flu bug. The man has been down and out for 24 hours now. He ran 102 fever all day today. His fever is gone now, but he’s exhausted. He even skipped dinner and if Kevin skips a meal? You KNOW it’s bad. 😦