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A Mom’s Worry Never Ends

I haven’t gotten a lot done today.

I’ve been worried about the boys.

Dude has been sick these past few days. Which is so weird to begin with because we, as in the whole family, are rarely sick.

Thank you, God.

But when it happens, I’m never quite sure what to do. Especially when it comes to the boys.

I’m embarrassed to admit this to you, but I’m not a very good nurse. In fact, it’s safe to say, I’m a downright mean nursemaid. I simply do not have patience for sick people.

That sounds so terrible, I know, but it’s absolutely true.

And this includes me, too. Whenever I get sick, I want to be left alone. Don’t talk to me, don’t look at me, just leave me be. (I did that when I was in labor with the boys. I simply drew my legs up to my chest, closed my eyes and concentrated on getting through the labor pains. I shut myself off from the world. I couldn’t tell you what was going on around me during that time period, I was so focused on my body. At least, until the epidurals kicked in πŸ™‚ ).

I withdraw from the world and concentrate on healing myself. I don’t want any help. I don’t expect any help. And I’m (unreasonably) stubborn. Whenever I get sick, I refuse to allow it to keep me bed-ridden. I continue with life. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve gone grocery shopping with my back out and so wracked with pain, my lower body completely numb, that I’ve nearly passed out.

Or the number of times I’ve gone to work with migraines so bad my vision was literally blurred.

Or the time I worked in the cash office (I was by myself at the time) at Wal-Mart, grabbed a plastic bag, hid in a corner of the room and away from the cameras so I could throw up without being videotaped. I then double-bagged the contents, calmly walked to the restroom, looking and feeling like warm hell, before resuming my duties and finishing my shift.

(That’s why I laugh whenever I hear women use the “I’ve got cramps” [insert annoying whine here] as an excuse to get out of work. Really?! I’ve had them so bad they felt like labor pains, too. I still went to work. Suck it up, sister).

THAT is how stubborn I am when I get sick. Life goes on.

Don’t you DARE pity me, world.

So naturally, I expect my family to feel the same way. And naturally, I shouldn’t expect my family to feel that same way.

Dude and I are a lot alike. He has a lot of my personality traits and many of my physical traits. Small sinuses being one such trait. I’ve had sinus problems my entire life. Hence the crazy bad headaches I get from time-to-time. And when allergy season rolls around (it’s September for Dude, he can’t handle the ragweed), his sinuses start giving him all sorts of problems. Whenever I walk into his room to wake him up in the mornings for school and see about a hundred wads of used tissues littering his bedroom floor, I mentally brace myself.

The sinus battle has begun.

His sinuses simply close like an angry fist. He can’t breathe, he can’t sleep and he is extremely grumpy.

Poor kid.

But I made him go to school yesterday and today anyway.

Because I’m mean, remember? (I did take his temperature – no fever. If he had had a fever, I wouldn’t have made him go. I’m not ruthless).

He looked like trampled dog poo when I picked him up from school yesterday. And he went straight to bed when we got home. I left to take Jazz to get his haircut and he was awake when I got back, which surprised me, I fully expected him to sleep until dinner.

He had some soup and acted like he felt a little better.

But he still wanted to stay home from school today.

I said no.

Because I’m mean.

*SIGH*

When Dude asked me WHY I wouldn’t allow him to stay home from school?

“Because you can’t stay home when you’re feeling like crap. Because if this were your job, instead of school, you’d be expected to go to work anyway. Because life doesn’t stop simply because you can’t breathe.”

Wait, that didn’t come out right. But you know what I mean.

Or perhaps you don’t.

I feel like an ogre making him go to school all stuffed up. And that’s the extent of his illness right now; I’ve questioned him endlessly on his symptoms. He’s not nauseous. He doesn’t have a fever. He’s not coughing. He doesn’t have a headache. He simply can’t breathe.

So, the kid uses nose spray, takes an Aleve and goes to school. Because if everyone stayed home because they didn’t feel 100%, then nothing would get done.

I’ve worked with too many people who have used the lamest excuses to get out of work. Which inevitably left more work for people like me, who showed up to work everyday and did my part. I don’t want my boys to become one of those people who use every sniffle as an excuse to stay home and avoid their duties. I’m trying to teach them a life lesson here.

But at the same time, I feel like an ogre.

I mentioned that part, right?

*SIGH*

Sometimes, it SUCKS to be mom, you know? I want to baby my kids, but what am I teaching them by doing so? I mean, seriously, if the kid had a fever or was puking his guts out, then of course, I’d keep him home. But to allow him to stay home because of a stuffy head?

Er, I just can’t do that.

I hope Dude feels better today, because the guilt is seriously going to kill me. And Dude, if you read this someday, I didn’t take ANY pleasure out of making you go to school. In fact, I felt nauseous myself after I dropped you off. I’m sorry. I hope some day, when you have children of your own, you understand why I did some of the things I did.

I’m also worried about Jazz. For those that don’t know, he got his hair whacked off yesterday.

Trust me when I say, this is a big deal. His long hair was part of his personality. It defined him, in some ways.

But he got it chopped off for band. It was his decision. I did not make him do it. He insisted he wanted to get it done so he wouldn’t have to worry about having to stuff his hair into his band hat during performances.

But he looks different. So, SO, different. (Better, in my opinion, and oh so much older, but I’m mom, I don’t know squat).

I’m worried that his peers, that his so-called “friends”, will make fun of him.

You know how kids can be.

UPDATED: I just picked the kids up from school and Dude is feeling better. Still not 100%, but definitely better than yesterday.

Jazz said that everyone liked his hair and no one made fun of him. YAY! I think he’s really going to be thankful he made this decision when they actually compete next month. I’m sure the band director will be a little stricter on their appearance.

At any rate, the kids are fine. They are home, safe and sound and I worried about them all day for nothing.

Such is the life of a mom. πŸ™‚

Life-condensed

Hair is No Longer an Issue

I can’t believe the kid did it, but did it he did.

hair-before-after-side

We went and got it cut after school today. He was pretty nervous about getting it cut, but he was also determined to do it.

hair-before-after

He was pretty somber in the chair, but when the stylist turned around to do something, he smiled at me in the mirror, so I think he was okay with the change. The stylist laughed when she caught him smiling.

It’s been a few hours since he had it done and now he has “buyer’s remorse,” I think. It’s just so short and so different than what he had that he’s having trouble adjusting. He’s also worried about how his classmates will react tomorrow. He did post a notice on Facebook, so some of his chums will already be prepared.

I asked him one question:

“Are you more embarrassed having short hair or having to wear barrettes to keep it out of your face?”

“Good point,” was his reply.

So, he’ll be fine.

Of course, I’m thrilled. But I’m trying not to act all that excited about it because you know, we can’t have mom liking it too much. It’s been long for three years now and it IS different, but I really think he’s going to like not having to fool with it.

Especially when he marches this Friday and all of his buddies who have long hair are having to deal with putting it up.

At any rate, I’m proud of him. That took a lot of courage to do something that drastic.

Two thumbs up, buddy.

Life

First Marching Performance

Friday night was Jazz’s first official band performance.

We dropped Jazz off early so he could buy his gloves and prepare with the rest of the band.

Me, Kevin and Dude all arrived at the stadium at 6:35 (kickoff was at 7:00) and we nearly didn’t find a seat. The whole place was packed. We ended up sitting right next to where the band was scheduled to sit and coincidentally, we were on the same row as Jazz (who later saw us).

The game started off great. The visiting team got the first touchdown, but missed their field goal and then our school got their first touchdown.

Half-time rolled around and our kids proudly performed their songs. I can’t even describe to you what it felt like watching Jazz out there, being completely serious and focused on the configurations and the music. My heart swelled so much I believe I had a bit hanging out of my mouth.

What an attractive picture THAT makes.

Kevin took the below videos. I’d like to apologize in advance for the glaring lights, and the fact that you can’t really HEAR the band playing because the spirit teams were so loud and quite disrespectful, in my opinion.

In fact, I was quite annoyed with most of the crowd when the band played. I wanted to stand up and yell “SHUT UP!” but of course, I didn’t.

But if you listen carefully, you can hear them. The songs they played were just beautiful, but too soft, I think.


(Kevin zooms in on Jazz a few times. He looks so handsome in his uniform!)


(The video starts out on Jazz. Doesn’t he do a good job marching backwards??)

The kids didn’t learn the movements in the 3rd set in time to perform it, so they just stood in one place and played their third song. We should have a video of that after this next Friday night game.

After half-time, the kids took their seats in the bleachers. Periodically, the drum line would tap out a catchy little tune and the band members would stand up and shake their booties. It was quite fun.

Jazz wouldn’t get up and do that though. In fact, he didn’t take off his hat, gloves, or jacket the rest of the evening. He sat quite straight and formal the rest of the night.

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The rest of the band, however, didn’t have any problem shedding all the clothing they could before leaving the bleachers to grab a slice of pizza and something to drink. Again, Jazz sat, in full uniform, and chatted with a good friend of his.

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I was quite annoyed with the boy. I was worried that he was going to get overheated in his uniform. The temperature was in the mid-80’s that night and the kids were soaked in sweat.

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(That’s my annoyed, exasperated, worried look, in case you’re wondering).

After the game was over, I asked Jazz why he wouldn’t take his gear off.

He had several reasons:

1. He didn’t want to have to rely on someone else to zip him back up in his jacket. (The zippers are in the back and they start at the top and zip down. Crazy!)
2. The gloves were a pain to put on and he didn’t want to put them back on later.
3. His hair is so long, that he had to use barrettes in order to make it stay under his hat and he was too embarrassed to take it off and be seen with barrettes in his hair.

And the hair thing? Has been a problem ever since.

We’ve tried head bands, we’ve a tried shower cap (I nearly peed my pants because THAT was hilarious and never really a serious option, but it was fun to try), and tucking his hair into a hair band, but nothing works. We want to offer him a solution that he can whip his hat off and just run his fingers through his hair and not worry about it anymore.

I suggested he get a shorter haircut. And I made the suggestion not really expecting him to take me up on it.

But to my surprise, he said, “Whatever it takes.”

*THUD*

So, I’m taking him to get his haircut today after school. (Dude needs a trim, too. But he’s feeling like crap right now due to allergies/head cold so I’ll have to wait until he feels better to take him in).

I’m thinking his hair might end up looking like this. It would remain longer on top (he really has to have it longer on top, he has so many cowlicks that his hair sticks straight up when it’s too short), but shorter on the sides and back. That way, he can jam his hat on without having to tuck in the sides and back and only have to worry about the top.

When I first showed him that picture, he was all for it. But he’s since thought about it and he just wants to have a couple of inches cut off (his hair IS pretty long), so, we’ll see how it turns out.

I will take pictures, of course. πŸ™‚

Jazz also got into trouble because we didn’t hem his pants up high enough. Apparently, they need to rest on the tops of his shoes. We did not know that.

But hey, we’re band newbies, what do you expect.

So the evening went well, but we learned a lot in the process. Our goal is to make him as comfortable as possible this next performance so he can loosen up and actually enjoy himself.

Oh, Jazz finally started a Facebook account (*groan*, he succumbed to peer pressure because everyone in his band has a Facebook account), and he’s become a band cheerleader:

Don’t forget, fellow Band Members, we’ve a game tonight. Play loud and be proud that you’re part of the [insert band name here].

Posted before the performance and

Alright, everyone. Good job on the night of 9/11. I think it went pretty good, considering that it was our first performance. Post your opinions below.

Posted after the performance.

I can totally see him being a sectional leader – he’s VERY pro-band. In fact, he LOVES it.

By the way, we lost the game. *sad face* But there were some exciting moments and I yelled so loudly that I was hoarse the entire weekend.

And so begins our football season.

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Time Out for a Peaceful Moment

Love this woman.

This is from Enya’s newest album: And Winter Came

I’m a big Enya fan. Whenever life’s stresses start getting me down, I dial to the Enya folder on my iTouch and drown myself in her soft voice and soothing melodies.

Here’s to a peaceful day, my friends.

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(RSS readers: I’ve included a video. It’s a great video. Click over and watch, won’t you? πŸ˜€ )

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Teaching: The Consequences of Believing Satan’s Lie

Every Sunday I provide videos and valuable links to the Truth or Tradition teachings. We’ve been following the Truth or Tradition teachings for many years now and they have truly blessed our family. We have found peace and happiness through our beliefs and we walk confidently for God. My hope, by passing on this information to you, is that what you find here, or on the Truth or Tradition website, will guide you to a better, more blessed and abundant life.

If you would like to read my views on religion and how we got started with the ministry, you can read this.

Let’s get started:

[This article is taken from Chapter One of the book Is There Death After Life?]

The Father Of Lies

Among other things, Jesus Christ came to expose Satan’s methods. Chief among these is the Devil’s consistent contradiction of God’s Word.

John 8:44
Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do, he was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

In John 10:10a, Jesus clearly revealed Satan’s intentions: β€œThe thief cometh not but for to steal, and to kill and to destroy.” Satan’s ultimate goal is to promote death and destruction, as the Bible makes clear.

Hebrews 2:14
Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might destroy him who holds the power of deathβ€”that is, the devil.

The Devil holds the power of death, and one of his most effective aids in exercising this power is the lie that death is in reality the gate-way to everlasting life and ultimate wisdom. He first told this lie early in Genesis.

Perhaps you recall that Satan’s first recorded utterance in Scripture was a challenge to the veracity of God’s Word. Satan said, β€œDid God really say, β€˜You must not eat from any tree in the garden?’” (Gen. 3:1, NIV). This deceptive misquote of God’s revealed Word led to his second utterance, β€œYe shall not surely die” (Gen. 3:4), which was just the opposite of what God had said to Adam.

Genesis 2:16 and 17
(16) And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
(17) But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.

God said, β€œThou shalt surely die.” Satan said, β€œYe shall not surely die.” Scripture makes clear who was telling the truth.

Romans 5:12
Wherefore, as by one man [Adam] sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned.

Death, both spiritual and physical, was the result of man’s believing Satan’s lie. The idea that there is really no such thing as death is still being promoted today, even within the Christian Church. Satan’s purpose has remained the same: to promote the idea that humans do not actually die, but go on living after their death whether they believe God’s Word or not. In this way, he obscures the light of the good news of Christ and his resurrection, one’s only hope of deliverance from death unto everlasting life.

False Hope

The false doctrine that the dead are alive and already in heaven or hell is so well entrenched in the average Christian’s mind that he has probably never considered its harmful ramifications. Understanding that Satan is the β€œfather” of this lie explains why the consequences of believing it are so serious. The first, and perhaps most serious, consequence of believing this doctrine is that it changes the Christian’s focus from the appearing of the Prince of Life, Jesus Christ, to the coming of one’s own death.

In 1829, the Scottish Bible scholar Edward Irving, in a lecture entitled β€œThe Second Advent of Our Lord,” stated that:

Instead of looking to that glorious event [the Lord’s appearing], and to all the circumstances connected therewith, the church has nearly forgotten it, and instead of it, to take up with miserable substitutes, such as that every man should think but of the day of his death; from which consideration there comes not joy nor strength, but weakness and oppression…. [1]

In contrast, the late Dr. Walter Martin, a noted Christian apologist, in his epochal work The Kingdom of the Cults, which well represents the position of orthodox Christianity on this subject, wrote:

The great hope of the believer, then, is the joy of personal union with the Lord, and this union, the Apostle Paul tells us, takes place at the death of the body. [2]

How sad it is to teach God’s people that the hope of a Christian is his own death, and how opposed to God’s perspective that death is an β€œenemy,” as 1 Corinthians 15:26 clearly states: β€œThe last enemy that shall be destroyed is death.” Biblically, death is a thief, not a benefactor. Death takes away life; it does not give a greater life.

In attempting to preserve the traditions of historic, orthodox Christianity, such teaching that the β€œdead” are β€œalive” blatantly contradicts God’s Word and further entrenches the Christian Church in this error. Those who have mistakenly propounded this doctrine have apparently overlooked the many verses plainly stating that the focal point of a Christian’s hope is not his own death, but the appearing of our Lord Jesus Christ from heaven. For example:

John 14:2 and 3
(2) In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.
(3) And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.

1 Thessalonians 2:19
For what is our hope, or joy, or crown of rejoicing? Are not even ye in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at his coming?

1 Thessalonians 4:16 and 17
(16) For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:
(17) Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.

Titus 2:13
Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ;

It is the occasion of Christ’s appearing from heaven that Christians should anticipate as the way of deliverance from the bondage and corruption of death. Jesus Christ is the only gateway to everlasting life and the only means by which believers will have access to God’s presence in Paradise. [3] When Jesus Christ comes again, he will fashion new, glorious bodies for us (Phil. 3:21). Apart from having these new bodies, there is no hope of entrance into the presence of God. Near the end of his life, the Apostle Paul wrote the following about this occasion:

2 Timothy 4:8
Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.

Shifting the event that triggers our entrance into the presence of God from Christ’s appearing to our own death is nothing short of satanic subterfuge. In the minds of many, Satan has subtly changed the gateway to eternal life from Jesus Christ to death itself. Considering the past actions of God’s archenemy, this clever trick is totally consistent with his methods. The Christian’s hope is not death, but the appearing of Jesus Christ. When he appears, each Christian who is still alive will exchange his mortal body for a glorious immortal body, and each believer who has died will be raised to glorious and everlasting life.

Who Needs Resurrection?

A second consequence of believing the doctrine that the dead are alive is one that has drastic implications for biblical integrity and harmony. Believing that all the dead are conscious in heaven or hell reduces the great truth of resurrection to virtual insignificance. Death must be true death if resurrection is to be meaningful. If death involves only the body, with the soul and / or consciousness living on, then resurrection has lost at least half its significance.

If all believers have gone into the presence of God at their deaths, the monumental importance of Jesus Christ’s resurrection is negated. If Abraham, David, Job and others were already in heaven as disembodied souls or spirits, enjoying the presence of God in β€œeternity,” then our enemy, death, had already been vanquished before Christ’s resurrection, and eternal life was available without Christ. In fact, if it were true, as many teach, that Enoch, Elijah and Moses went to heaven bodily, then Jesus is not even the only human in heaven with a body. Such teaching contradicts the Word of God, confuses sincere Christians and dilutes their joy of hope.

It also leads to a question posed by Wycliffe, Tyndale, Luther and others during the course of Christian history. If disembodied souls are able to live and enjoy the presence of God in heaven for eternity, then what is the need for a resurrection?

William Tyndale (1492-1536), the heroic Reformation figure chiefly responsible for translating the Bible into English, wrote the following to combat the teaching of the Roman Catholic Church:

And when he [Sir Thomas More] proveth that the saints be in heaven in glory with Christ already, saying β€˜If God be their god, they be in heaven for he is not the God of the dead …’ therewith he stealeth away Christ’s argument wherewith he proveth the resurrection, that Abraham and all the saints shall rise again, and not that their souls were in heaven, which doctrine was not yet in the world, and with this doctrine he [More] taketh away the resurrection quite, and maketh Christ’s argument of none effect.

And in like manner Paul’s argument to the Corinthians is worth naught. For when he sayeth, β€˜If there be no resurrection we be of all wretches the most miserable …’ I marvel that Paul had not comforted the Thessalonians with that doctrine if he had [known] of it that the souls of their dead had been in joy, as he did with the resurrection that their souls should rise again. If the souls be in heaven in as great glory as the angels after your doctrine, show me what cause should be of resurrection. [4]

Tyndale went on:

And you in putting them [the souls of the dead] in heaven, hell and purgatory, destroy the arguments wherewith Christ and Paul prove the resurrection … the true faith putteth the resurrection which we are warned to look for every hour. The heathen philosophers, denying that, did put that the souls did ever live. And the Pope joineth this spiritual doctrine of the philosophers together, things so contrary that they cannot agree. [5]

If a body is not required for life in the β€œhereafter,” then God is going to a lot of trouble for no apparent reason by β€œreuniting” everyone with his body. And the physical death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, serving only to allow the disembodied soul or spirit to be united with a body that it obviously can do without, seems to be of little significance.

The teaching that the soul lives on after death destroys the uniqueness of Christian doctrine, that is, that Jesus Christ’s bodily resurrection is prerequisite to anyone being given everlasting life. With so much biblical emphasis on the resurrection of Jesus Christ, any doctrine undermining it is highly suspect.

That Sounds β€œFamiliar”

A third consequence of believing the doctrine that souls live on after the body dies is that it plays into the hands of those who promote the practice of communicating with the dead. Today many people, both Christian and non-Christian, attempt to communicate with the spirits of the dead, often in seances or via β€œchanneling.” Such practices are similar to ancestor worship, historically a practice of most non-Christian religions. Pagans believe that the spirits of departed ancestors intervene in their lives, both for good and evil. Thus, as godlike beings, they must be worshiped and entreated. Superstition and fear of the unknown are always hallmarks of such false doctrine.

If there really are β€œdeparted souls” or β€œspirits” that are conscious and have knowledge of eternity or other matters of interest to those of us still earthbound, why not communicate with them? Because they are not there to answer. What will answer are evil spirits (fallen angels currently under Satan’s dominion) impersonating the dead. In the Old Testament, however, God expressly forbade communication with such β€œfamiliar spirits.”

We are at war, my friends. Do not allow Satan to win.

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