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Maybe Iz Can Help?

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Okay Internet. Enough about me. Let’s hear what’s on your mind. It’s time to get that thing off your chest.

Tell Aunt Karen what’s bothering you. 🙂

(Please feel free to remain anonymous. The only person who will see your email is me and trust me, it ain’t going anywhere.)

So, spill it. What’s bothering you?

3 thoughts on “Maybe Iz Can Help?”

  1. @Benjamin:

    I know, work sucks. But it pays the bills. And there are a lot of people (especially here in America) who would love to have any job right about now, so be thankful that you have a job to begin with.

    Secondly, it’s all about attitude, my friend. Try and look on the bright side of things and your day is likely to go just a little better.

    “I hate being here, but man, I’m glad I’m making some money. I could be homeless or hungry.” 🙂

    @Patty:

    Wow, that’s a toughie.

    Here’s what I would do: I’d catch up to her one more time and just casually say something like, “Billie (assuming name here), sure was disappointed that so-and-so didn’t get to come over the other day.”

    If she seems to be genuinely surprised, then maybe she’s got a lot going on in her life and honestly forgot about the playdate.

    If she hems and haws, then maybe she just doesn’t have the guts to tell you she isn’t interested in pursuing a friendship and is just too cowardly to say no to your attempts to reach out to her.

    How I would proceed would depend on how she acted. If she acted like she honestly forgot, then I’d try again, one more time.

    But only one more time.

    If she sort of blows you off, then I would definitely write her off. She’s not interested (unless she tries and only then, if she follows through. If she doesn’t follow through on HER own invitation, then I would definitely not waste any more time on her). You can only do so much.

    This, of course, leaves the poor boys out in the cold. However, I would use this as an opportunity to pull your son aside and talk to him about how important it is to stick to your word. When you say you’re going to do something, then do it. When you don’t, you end up disappointing and hurting a lot of people and then people have a hard time trusting you in the future.

    I’d also stress the importance of saying what you mean and meaning what you say. If you don’t WANT to play with someone, then just tell them “no thank you.” Don’t play games with people’s emotions.

    Hhmm, that lecture seems familiar, actually. Yes, I believe I HAVE had that very talk with my boys. 🙂

    Situations like this are hard, but it’s a good life lesson opportunity.

    Anyone else have any advice for Patty?

  2. I have a 6yo son who is heartbroken over a playdate that didn’t happen yesterday. And this is the second time this mother has not shown up nor called.

    A little history, at the beginning of summer the boys got together to play. Then we set up to have him back over a few days later for a sleepover. No show. No phone, nothing. I called and left a message, no response. And I am friends with this mother.

    School started again this week. I contacted her about getting the boys together. I saw her Friday morning and we set it up that she would drop her son off after school. Again, no show, no call.

    My son keeps getting disappointed that he doesn’t get to play with his friend. Any advice on how to approach this mother about the issue?

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