Life

Life With Two Teenage Boys

Dude came to me yesterday and said, “Mom. I need help. I am tired ALL the time.”

“What? Why, are you falling asleep in class?”

“No. Well, almost. I can’t concentrate.”

“Do you think you need to go to the doctor?” (I don’t know why I asked this, going to the doctor is ALWAYS our last option).

“I don’t know.”

Hmm, the fact that he said he wasn’t sure instead of an immediate “no” caught me off guard.

“Why don’t we try some things first before we go to the doctor.”

“Okay.”

“Because I can tell you right now, son, they are going to suggest you change your diet, are going to ask about your sleeping habits and if you exercise. Then, they’ll probably give you drugs. Because that’s ultimately what people want when they go to the doctor – they want a pill for whatever ails them.”

He shrugged.

“Tell you what,” I said, “tonight, why don’t you walk a mile on the treadmill and drink a protein drink. Then, in the morning, eat a bigger breakfast, something more than just cereal, do some jumping jacks and push-ups to get your blood flowing and you can have a little coffee. Do you want to try that?”

“Sure.”

And that’s exactly what we did. We’ll see if it makes a difference.

****

Me and Jazz were in the car this morning waiting for Dude.

I honked the horn several times.

Still, he didn’t come out.

When the clock continued to tick toward the dangerous if we don’t leave right now we’re going to be late time, I got out and was walking into the house when Dude came out.

“Let’s go, son! We’re going to be late!”

“I can’t find my homework.”

“Your math homework?”

“Yep. But forget about it. We don’t have time.”

We got into the car and I was pulling out of the driveway when I said, “Did you check the papers on the counter?”

“Yeah.” But he didn’t sound too sure.

I pulled back into the driveway and together, we ran into the house to check the papers out on the counter.

His homework was not there.

“Okay, we don’t have time for this. We’ve gotta go,” I said and we jumped back into the car and zoomed off to school.

“Maybe dad threw it away.”

“That’s possible. You know your dad, if it’s sitting around and in the way, it irritates him and he tosses it. I’ll check the trash when I get home.”

“Nah. Don’t bother. I’ll just re-do it.”

“Dang it, Dude! You need to put your stuff away! You went through all of that for nothing. Now you have to do it again.”

Dude is not the best organizer in the world.

He shrugged and I dropped the kids off. I came home and checked the trash – no homework.

Now I’m curious. Paper can’t just develop legs and walk off (unless it’s from Bent Objects then, who knows). Where in the world was Dude’s homework?

Kevin and I met for lunch and he suggested that it was somewhere in the black hole that Dude calls his backpack.

Maybe.

I picked the kids up from school.

“Did you find your homework?”

“Nope.”

“Wow. This is frustrating.”

“Tell me about it.”

We came home.

“Jazz, you might want to make a trip to the bathroom and brush your teeth, your dentist appointment is in fifteen minutes.”

“Hey mom,” Dude said.

“Yep?” I said while scanning for new email.

“I found my homework.”

“Where was it?”

“Near the XBox.”

“Ohhh yeah,” I said. “I remember you went in to watch Jazz play his game after you and dad finished your homework. Oops.”

Dude grinned.

****

“What’s up buddy? Is something wrong?” I asked Jazz as we pulled up in front of the dentist’s office.

“Nothing.”

This is the part where I ask 20 questions. I know, from experience, if I happen on the right question then, and only then, will Jazz confide in me.

“Is it school?”

“No.”

“Is someone giving you a hard time?”

“No.”

“Is it band?”

“No.”

“Is it your friends?”

Silence.

Ah.

“Is A. being a butt again?”

“No.”

“Does it have anything to do with the girl you thinks likes you?”

Silence.

“I don’t want to talk about it,” Jazz said.

We walked into the office, Jazz signed in and is called back shortly thereafter.

In the meantime, I’m running scenarios through my head. It could be a number of things. Jazz tends to get his feelings hurt pretty easily and often times, it ends up being a misunderstanding or he made a bigger deal out of something than he should have.

The dental assistant comes out with Jazz and gives me brief instructions on the spacers she put into his teeth. He’ll need to wear them for a week in preparation for his braces next Wednesday.

As soon as we get back into the car, “So, tell me what’s bugging you.”

“It’s complicated, mom. I don’t want to talk about it.”

“Does it have something to do with H.?”

He shrugged.

“You can tell me. I won’t say anything, I’ll just listen. Sometimes it’s nice just to get it off your chest.”

He shook his head and stared out of the window.

After we got home and he had had a chance to settle in his room, I approached him again.

“Okay, tell me what is going on.”

“No.”

“Okay, fine. But remember this, whatever it is, it’s not the end of the world and if your friends see that it bugs you, they’ll just keep doing what they’re doing. And you know what? If H. is not interested in you like you’re interested in her, then whatever. Be friends with her. It’s her loss. You’re a wonderful, thoughtful and caring person, don’t get sucked into the drama. Okay?”

“Okay.”

And thus continues my life with two teenage boys.

Life

One Quarter Down, Three to Go

The first quarter of Dude’s Junior year is over.

The first quarter of Jazz’s Freshman year is over.

The remaining three quarters will zoom by and I’ll be left staring at a SENIOR and a SOPHOMORE.

I’m sorry, WHEN exactly did my boys grow up, again?!

This next quarter will drag – the second quarter always does, even though we’ve got Thanksgiving and Winter break (because God forbid we call it Christmas break).

However, the third and fourth quarters? Will ZOOM by. I will blink and the end of the school year will be upon us.

The boys’ classes didn’t change overly much. Dude finished ACT Prep and Personal Finance (LOVE that Personal Finance is a required class – he learned the stone-cold truth about taxes and how he will be paying for our gluttonous’ government spending when he reaches ADULTHOOD. Thanks for that, Obama). Dude now has P.E. and Drawing II.

He doesn’t exactly LIKE Drawing, but he needs the class to satisfy his fine art requirement (since he doesn’t participate in music, like Jazz). I think the class is good for him, though. It teaches him to tap into the creative part of his brain.

I’m happy about the weight lifting class. Even though it will be tough on him at first, because of his sedentary lifestyle, (the boy never exercises – he sits in front of his computer all the time), he will eventually adjust and he’ll have MORE energy. He’ll also develop muscles in his arms. How do I know this? Because he took the weight lifting class last year for P.E. credit. (You can take it more than once). I just hope he keeps his hands clean and away from his face because weight lifting and germs? Yeah, hand-in-hand. (HA! There’s a pun right thar).

Looking Through Grandma's Eyes
(This picture doesn’t have anything to do with anything, I just think it’s cute and Dude looks so studious wearing my mother-in-law’s glasses. This was also, like, another lifetime ago).

I’d like to take a moment to brag on Dude a moment. I don’t know if the kid is trying extra hard because he wants to measure up in our eyes, or if he’s “competing” for our attention because we’ve been giving Jazz so much attention via his marching activities, but Dude has been working his BUTT off these past several weeks. I’ve mentioned before that math and Dude simply doesn’t mix. He comes by this math struggle honestly – I stink at math.

But I will be the first to admit that Dude is MUCH smarter than I am and especially when it comes to math. But that’s a subject that he simply STRUGGLES with. Algebra II is “technically” the last math class he has to have in order to graduate. So, if we could juuuust get past this hump, he can move on to other classes that have math, but are more interesting to him, like computer programming.

He has been willingly spending HOURS studying and practicing math problems. And though Kevin has had to help him past a few speed bumps, for the most part, the kid is doing it on his own.

Dude’s math teacher allows the kids to re-take one test per quarter. Considering there was one test that Dude completely messed up on, he got up early on the allotted day and I made a special trip up to the school so he could take it before his first class.

He ended up getting a B on it. I was proud of his improved grade, but I was MORE proud of his maturity and his willingness to work, just a little harder, in order to get that better grade. I’m so proud of his motivation and his DESIRE to do well. And I think the experience has served to reassure me that this kid? Is going to do okay in life. πŸ™‚

Jazz finished P.E. (thank goodness. I always breathe a sigh of relief when ever he has P.E. at the beginning of the year as opposed to in the spring because of his allergies) and now has health which he ALREADY despises.

Since Dude finished the ACT Prep course and now has a pretty good idea what to expect from the actual ACT course, we’ve been talking about possible test dates.

He’s a little freaked out about the whole thing – mostly because of the math. He’s not sure he’ll remember everything, but we’ll make a trip to Barnes and Noble and find some study material for him. The counselors suggest the kids take the ACT test their Junior year, sort of as a practice test, and then take it again their Senior year because by then, their scores are better and will look more attractive to colleges.

So, that’s what we plan on doing.

Dude and I talked it over, and I’m going to sign him up to take the ACT in April. I really want him to take the test as soon as possible while all of the material is still fresh in his mind. I made the mistake of waiting to take the ACT several years after high school and wow, my score was terrible. I won’t even tell you my score. I haven’t even told my family, but suffice it to say, it’s BAD. I think the only reason I got into college to begin with was because I was an older student and they A. felt sorry for me and B. wanted to meet their older student quota.

So … April 10th Dude will take the ACT test.

I’m really anxious for this second quarter to end. Dude will have completed (and hopefully made a decent grade in) Algebra II and can go on to computer programming. And Jazz will have Jazz Band (it’s an actual CLASS!) which means he’ll have to forfeit a required course in order to take Jazz band and that will give me a pretty good idea what class he’ll need to make up in the summer and I can start making plans for our traditional summer family vacation.

Hey, I’m a planner, what can I say. πŸ™‚

When I was in high school, we didn’t have NEARLY the class options that the kids have nowadays (I sound like such an old fogey). We had the same classes ALL YEAR long and now, the kids not only have several options, but a lot of the elective classes are only a quarter long so there’s really no chance to get bored with them. I wonder, if we had had the same sort of class variety back in my high school days, if I would have liked school any better.

Nah. Probably not.


UPDATE: Just picked the kids up and Dude told me that he was taken out of P.E. (something about the weight room is reserved for athletes during this quarter) and moved to Civil War. Alrighty then. I can’t keep up with these kids!

Band

How Can You Beat First Place?

Jazz’s band traveled to St. Louis this past Saturday for the Greater St. Louis festival (GSL). We didn’t go this time around. I wanted to go, but I knew it would be stressful trying to beat him home by 2:30 in the morning.

Yes. Two-thirty in the morning.

I get sleepy enough driving during the day, there was no way I would make the drive in the dead of night. Kevin probably could have done it, but honestly, driving that late at night is dangerous and what if we didn’t make it back before Jazz?

Ugh. I can’t even contemplate having to rouse a family member out of bed so they could pick Jazz up and keep him company until we got home.

No. Me, Kevin and Dude all stayed home Saturday.

Jazz took off from the school at noon. They made it to Fenton by 4:30 and had dinner then went straight to the Edward Jones’ Dome to warm up so they would be ready to perform by 8:30 p.m.

In the meantime, I spent the entire day watching the clock.

“He should be near St. Louis now.”

“He’s probably eating now.”

“I HOPE he’s eating now and not so excited that he forgets and then passes out from hunger on the field.”

“He should be at the stadium now.”

“The kids are warming up. I bet they’re doing those arm exercises that he loves so much.” (insert sarcasm here).

“Oh geez. It’s 8:15. It’s getting close. I bet they’re nervous. I’M nervous.”

“It’s 8:30! It’s 8:30!”

This is the part where I started chewing my already short fingernails.

And yes, I drove Kevin and Dude nuts.

I knew there were three more bands scheduled after Jazz’s and that the awards were going to be presented at 9:45. So, peace ascended on our household between 8:45 and 9:45.

Then the time rolled around.

“Oh geez, they should be announcing the winners now. I hope the guys did well!”

This is the part where I endured exasperated looks from my guys. We were watching “Mythbusters” and were quite into it when my cell phone rang.

“Put it on pause! Put it on pause!”

I answered my phone.

“Hello?”

“Mom?”

I could tell by his voice that something was up.

“Yeah! Hey buddy! How did it go?”

“MOM! WE GOT FIRST PLACE!”

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I think I hooped and hollered, but that whole time period was sort of an out-of-body experience so I’m not sure.

Yes. Our kids got first place. But not ONLY first place, they also received an award for Outstanding Visual Performance and Outstanding General Effect!!

I could hear all of his band mates yelling in the background.

They won first place!!! *squee!*

And you know what? There are 71 freshman in the band this year, which just about makes up half of the band. If our kids are doing this well now, just imagine how they will improve over the next three years!

(Hopefully – more on that in a minute).

Jazz called me back about 30 minutes later to tell me that they were projected to get back into town at about 1:45 a.m. So I set my alarm for 1:30.

When the alarm went off, I got up and turned my computer back on. The band director is on Twitter and I wanted to see if he had made any updates on where they were.

No updates.

My imagination started running away with me (it’s a curse) and I started imagining all sorts of things happening to the buses and had just about convinced myself that they were in trouble and I was going to have to go up to the school and rally with the rest of the waiting parents to try and figure out how to get a hold of the band director and find out why they hadn’t arrived yet when my cell phone went off.

Jazz was 10 minutes out of town.

By the time I reached the school, the buses were pulling in – perfect timing.

It was sort of amusing to watch the kids spill off the bus. They had all been asleep and were disoriented zombies as they stumbled back into the cold night air.

I spotted Jazz and helped him with his gear. While he took his instrument back to his locker inside the school, I unzipped his garment bag and hung his uniform back up (it was wadded up on the bottom).

We got back home and we all promptly went back to bed. (Kevin had gotten up to welcome him back home. Dude was dead to the world).

I had to take his uniform back to the cleaners today. One, it was sweaty (ew) and two, the kids had to change in the parking lot before getting back on the bus and it was dusty.

Picture that for a minute. Exactly how does that happen? In the parking lot? In front of God and everyone else?

I asked Jazz about it.

“So Jazz. When you guys change in the parking lot – how does that work, exactly? Do they put up a screen or something?”

“Nope. We all just change in front of each other.”

“You mean, the girls too? You guys don’t go off somewhere and the girls go off somewhere?”

“Nope. There’s no time. We just sort of deal with it.”

“Aren’t you tempted to peek?”

Jazz’s cheeks flushed a nice shade of pink at that point and I had my answer. But he shrugged it off and said, “We do what we have to do. And sorry I didn’t hang my uniform back up. We only had 25 minutes to change and get everything back on the bus.”

So … Jazz is learning a thing or two about modesty – or lack thereof, apparently. Actually, I’m okay with this. I mean, bodies are bodies and if you treat them as such, then really, what’s the big deal?

I was excited about Jazz going back to school today. I thought his entire band would celebrate their victory but …. um …. no.

“Did you guys have a party in band today?”

“No.”

“No? Why not? Wasn’t your band director happy about your results?”

“Not exactly.”

I was flabbergasted. How could the man NOT be happy with a FIRST PLACE win?!?

Jazz said that the band director showed them a tape of their performance and pointed out all of the flaws (never mind what they did right. And I’d like to add, that when Jazz called me with the news of their win, he said that he felt like it was the best performance they had ever given.)

Their forms (movements) were off. Their lines were not straight. The music sounded off.

Blah. Blah. Blah.

This sort of put me in a challenging position. First of all, I was annoyed. Excuse the hell out of me? Is what I wanted to say, but I didn’t. I defended the band director, but at the same time, told Jazz that he should feel very proud of his performance and never apologize for doing his best.

BUT, at the same time, there’s always room for improvement.

The challenge is, of course, finding the balance between doing your best and doing it PERFECTLY, I suppose.

I’m still a bit annoyed with the band director. How dare he pop these kids’ bubbles! They have worked their ASSES off and it paid off in spades this past competition. To suggest that they didn’t give their all or did a sloppy job is sort of insulting to the judges, don’t you think? That maybe the judges didn’t really know what they were talking about?

BUT, I don’t want to tell Jazz that he should just STOP and give up trying to do better.

We can all do better.

So … it was a weird position to be in. I mean, the kids got FIRST PLACE, how much better could they have gotten!

BUT, the band director knows what he’s talking about and I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt. I just hope he’s not cutting his nose off to spite his face and he ends up losing half of the band next year because they’ve lost their motivation to try and please the man, you know?

Jazz has one more football game Thursday night and then they travel up to Columbia for their last competition of the season. We’re going to try and go – simply because it’s the last competition of the season. We’ll see how it works out time wise. We haven’t gotten the schedule yet so I’m not sure when they’re supposed to get back into town, but the band is the last band scheduled to play (naturally) and then if they make finals, they’ll have to perform in finals. Which means it’ll most likely end up being another dead of the night sort of thing. So, we’ll see.

I’ve ordered a DVD of the band’s performance (and all of the bands that competed in his category), so hopefully, when I get that, I can convert the performance to video and post it for those of you interested in seeing the performance. I can’t make it public (due to copyright issues), but I’ll make it private and keep it up for about a week so friends and family can watch it.

I’m really looking forward to seeing how they did and IF I think they did as poorly as the band director THINKS they did.

I mean, I’m no expert, I’m just a proud mama, but dang it, how can you beat FIRST PLACE?!?

Grr. I’m annoyed.

random stuff

Is Anyone Home?

A boss wondered why one of his most valued employees had not come in and had not called out sick one day. Having an urgent problem with one of the main computers, he dialed the employee’s home phone number and was greeted with a child’s whisper.

“Hello.”

“Is your daddy home?” he asked.

“Yes,” whispered the small voice.

“May I talk with him?”

The child whispered, “No.”

Surprised and wanting to talk with an adult, the boss asked, “Is your Mommy there?”

“Yes.”

“May I talk with her?”

Again the small voice whispered, “No.”

Hoping there was somebody with whom he could leave a message, the boss asked, “Is anybody else there?”

“Yes,” whispered the child, “a policeman”

Wondering what a cop would be doing at his employee’s home, the boss asked, “May I speak with the policeman?”

“No, he’s busy”, whispered the child.

“Busy doing what?”

“Talking to Daddy and Mommy and the Fireman,” came the whispered answer.

Growing more worried as he heard what sounded like a helicopter through the earpiece on the phone, the boss asked, “What is that noise?”

“A helicopter,” answered the whispering voice.

“What is going on there?” demanded the boss, now truly apprehensive.

Again, whispering, the child answered, “The search team just landed the helicopter.”

Alarmed, concerned and a little frustrated the boss asked, “What are they searching for?”

Still whispering, the young voice replied with a muffled giggle, “Me.”

Abundant Life

Teaching: Truth Matters – Part Five

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