The Love Dare Challenge

I’ve decided to give two copies of the book away (thank you for your interest!) and one movie away.

The winners are:


#11 – Carol Lawrence – book!

#15 – Rachel – book!

#25 – James Jenkins – movie!

THANK YOU to everyone who visited, commented and read my experiences with The Love Dare!!

Okay ya’ll, are you ready to take the Love Dare? If you don’t know what I’m talking about and want to learn more, just click on the badge below and you can read more about what the program is, what it means to me and why I’m hosting this 10-day challenge.

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In the meantime, let’s get started. Please visit this post every day for your new challenge. I’m actually going to be one day ahead of ya’ll so I can write about my experiences and I will post about my experiences in separate posts and link to them here.

Day Ten: Love vs. Lust. End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed — today — and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with his perfect love. What did you identify as an area of lust? What has this pursuit cost you over time? How has it led you away from the person you want to be? Write about your new commitment to seek Him — and to seek your spouse — rather than seeking after foolish desires. My experience.

Day Nine: Love takes delight. What did you decide to give up? What did you do together? How did it go? What new thing did you learn (or relearn) about your spouse? My experience

Day Eight: Love fights fair. If your spouse participated with you, what was their response? What rules did you write for yourself? My experience

Day Seven: Love is not jealous. How hard was it to destroy the list? What are some positive experiences that you can celebrate in the life of your mate? How can you encourage them toward future successes? My experience

Day Six: Love believes the best. Which list was easier to make? What did this reveal about your thoughts? What attribute did you thank your spouse for having? My experience

Day Five: Love is not rude. What things did your spouse point out about you that need your attention? How did you handle hearing it? What do you plan to do to improve these areas? My experience

Day Four: Love is thoughtful. What did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle? My experience

Day Three: Love is not selfish. What did you choose to give your spouse? What happened when you gave it?” My experience

Day Two: Love is kind. What discoveries about love did you make today? What specifically did you do in this dare? How did you show kindness? My experience (Plus more about kindness)

Day One: Love is patient Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate? Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out in words? My experience

(Please note: if you feel more comfortable doing this anonymously, then by all means, feel free to change your name in the comment section. Just please leave a valid email address so I can contact you, if necessary. Don’t worry, I will be the only person who has access to your email addy. Also, if you post about your personal challenge, please leave the permalink to your post in the comment section so that others may read about your experiences [if you choose to share your personal experiences]).


In order to win a copy of The Love Dare (I might give two copies of The Love Dare away, depending on demand) or a “Fireproof” DVD, all you have to do is:

1. Leave a comment and tell me what you think about that day’s challenge – this counts as one ticket. (One comment per day, please).

2. If you actually DID the challenge, then please leave a comment and tell us how successful it was for you – this counts as TWO tickets.

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56 thoughts on “The Love Dare Challenge”

  1. There is no lust thankfully here. I don’t have time to do anything but take care of my family. Life has been especially busy since my twins were born. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years and married for 6. I only wish I could spend more time with him since he works so much.

  2. I’m ready to start the challenge as my relationship with my husband is good but can always be better as we’re always being challenged in life.

  3. Lust is a definite pit! I have conquered my lust for a free life to travel and enjoy myself not thinking of my responsibilites for family! Family is where I want to build my memories!

  4. Day 9 comment: We did this and I didn’t even know it was part of the challenge! (I just read day 9 this morning) Last night, we put the kids in bed early and just spent the evening together. My husband had some business things to do on the computer, but he turned it off so he could be with me. We didn’t do anything – we just sat, talked, and enjoyed each other’s company. We have had a lot going on in our lives lately and have been under a lot of stress – and while we’ve talked “business”, we haven’t talked much else. It was a great way to really connect and enjoy each other!

  5. comment for day 8: I’ll have to think about this one. I know the first rule I need to follow is to be sure I am clear on exactly why I am angry/upset and make sure hubby knows why. I tend to keep things in and then explode over something small, when the real issue is something different (and nuch more important).

    I will definitely be thinking about this over the next day or so!

  6. comment for day 7: Since i did a mental list, I mentally burned the negative one. Easy peasy, since I had such a hard time thinking of one!

  7. comment for day 6: I’ve been traveling, so I’m a little behind on the challenge. I was able to read this the other day but didn’t hae any paper handy. I made a mental list and the positive kept going and going! The negative? I had to try hard to come up with things to put on the list. Yeah, he does things that annoy me, but it is part of who he is so it’s easy to overlook those things and get on with life.

  8. Well, I did the patience one yesterday, the day the hubster went to play golf. I didn’t mind that it was almost 3 p.m. when he finished, because he did stop by the store for toilet paper. Lovely.

  9. I would love to take the challenge. I think I must have missed all of the daily challenges. Reading each one I can see how it would help a couple to become closer.

  10. I love my husband and my challenge is getting everything thats expected of me done. It’s not an easy job being a mommy and a wife

  11. I gave up doing the laundry today. It about killed me staring at the pile and I woke up in a very bad mood anyway, so that didn’t help. But spending the time with my hubby and kids has been very worth it to help sooth my battered soul today.

    Great blog and wonderful challenge!

  12. Love fights fair. I believe that it is very important to agree on the boundaries of fighting long before an arguement happens. Thank you so much for the awesome giveaway!

  13. I think it’s going to be hard…hard for the both of us! Day 7 especially hard for me. Day 3 probably for him.

  14. Love is patient — Wow that’s a good one for us now…… We are currently buying a house and wowsers have to be extra patient with each other, especially with him in Iraq and me here…the emails we send each other can sometimes be a little um…’intense’

  15. I have a hard time not getting upset over things. I am going to try to STOP and listen when my wife talks. Also not getting mad at what she says. I feel that she is trying to push me away, to the point that I leave. I don’t want to leave.

  16. I can’t Love Dare my husband today. I have no idea where he is. He didn’t come home today at all. Nice.
    I think it’s a great idea to ask your partner what things you do or say that make them irritated – so many times we hold that irritation and resentment inside and it just festers.

    Marianna – I hope he’s okay!

  17. We need this right now. I’m guessing I talk about the love is not rude one? I know I can be rude…I’m pregnant and hormonal and am fed up. I can feel myself being rude but can’t stop when he has hurt me.

    Anyway, thanks for the chance!

    Dee, I feel for you, I really do. It’s so HARD to be patient (and rational!) when you’re pregnant. Don’t be too hard on yourself!

  18. How funny that it’s about patience because as of late I’ve had hardly none. I find myself sniping, grumbling and just plain being nasty. I know it’s the stress of my hubby starting a new job, our youngest graduating college and looking for a good job with insurance because she’s no longer on ours, me looking for a job and/or going back to school, sick loved ones and on and on…God, I just place it all in your hands and know that Your will is the best for us.

    Yikes Laura, that IS a lot going on! Hang in there!

  19. Day 4 comment: Love is thoughtful. In the spirit of being thoughtful, I am NOT contacting my husband at work! He has had a lot of meetings lately and can’t spend time talking to me. He also relies heavily on email since the group he works with is in Houston and he’s in Dallas. Now is not a good time to be cluttering his inbox with notes to say “hey”. Maybe once we move and things are easier for him, but not now.

    Things I already do: I call him a few times a week, usually during lunch time and with some quick question I’ve invented. I don’t want to be seen as that needy wife who can’t leave her husband alone! πŸ™‚ When I’m running errands, I always ask him if there is anything he needs or wants. I keep track of things like when he is running low on coffee, toiletries, clean clothes, etc. If I’m behind on laundry, I ask him what shirt/pants he wants me to iron for the next day. He works hard to provide for us, so I work hard by taking care of those “little” things. To me, taking care of his needs before he realizes he has a need = thoughtfulness!

  20. Last night I was at the grocery store thinking of the challenge to be kind, and I decided to buy hubby some beer. (this was before I knew that today’s challenge was to buy something) He usually buys beer only 2 or three times a year – NBA playoffs, the baseball postseason, and maybe once during the summer. He’s been under a lot of stress with his new job and our upcoming move, and he still tries his best to get home to be with the family. I knew he would appreciate an evening to de-stress, and what better time for that than the start of the Western finals?

    I also bought a card, with plenty of room on the inside to write how much I appreciate all he does for me and the family.

    I am loving this dare so far, because I’m thinking all day about what I’m going to do – I’m focusing on him and how awesome he is, not on the little things I tend to get annoyed about.

    Good for you Rachel. GOOD. FOR. YOU! You’ve got it girl, you’ve nailed it. It’s all about shifting our focus and concentrating on the big picture. Bravo. I bet your husband was so surprised! (And he may not realize it now, but you’re setting an example that he’s sure to follow!)

  21. Love is not selfish.. wow.. I really need to work on myself. I just told my husband, I don’t get him half the time but then he doesn’t get me half the time either. Do any of us? LOL I guess we all are a work in progress. It was hard to find something for my husband, as I wasn’t too happy with him today. Nothing he really did.. just more it was me being a bit demanding and thinking he wasn’t helping enough. I did do the challage though and bought him a candy bar.. and put a note on it saying I will try harder to be sweeter to you,because you by my side make every day sweet and I love you for that.


    Oh Tina, I love how you bought him a candy bar and then put how “sweet” he is in the note. Great job!! I’ll guarantee you made his day!

    And you’re right, we’ll ALL works in progress – from newlyweds to old geezers like me! πŸ˜€

  22. I haven’t taken the challenge yet but I will. It’s worth it.

    It is definitely worth it, Florence.

  23. May 26th is our 25th wedding anniversary! My how time does fly! Our marriage is even better than the first years! We’ve grown to be like one!

  24. Day 2 comment: I think my single act of kindness was to not kick my husband off the computer desk so I could write this comment.

    I didn’t really have any chance to do anything kind that was not part of my normal daily jobs. But when he set up camp on his laptop in front of our desktop (the computer I use), I didn’t ask him to move like I normally would have – I just went without using the computer. I don’t think he even knew that I wanted to use the computer. Isn’t marriage a series of those small sacrifices anyway? Putting your spouse’s needs above your own in those things that don’t really matter?

    Looking forward to today – I think I did today’s challenge yesterday. I’ll tell you all about it tonight!

  25. No, nothing that made me angry, I think we’ve gotten used to each other after over 50 years!

  26. I like the Day#2 challenge and I plan on doing something kind today.

    Good for you, Carol! Let us know what you did and how it turned out!

  27. It makes me feel so much better about our relationship to only say positive things. thanks!

    Good for you, Erica! Keep up the good work!

  28. Well, it’s 10:00 at night and I just saw today’s challenge. Today was NOT a good day for patience for me! Part of it had to do with hunger (I didn’t have time to eat braskfast and it was 1:30 when I got to eat lunch) and stress (multiple things going on – all stressful).

    I needed my hubby to help load a lawn mower into the van before he got in the shower (we were going separate ways and I needed to leave as soon as I could. He went inside the house as I struggled to get the mower handle down to fit it in the van. I went inside to find him and I heard the shower running. I started cursing at him in my mind. A minute later, he came outside to help. I was so mad at myself for getting upset over nothing and so grateful that I kept it all in my head.

    At least I DID keep it all inside, but I still should have not gotten that upset that quickly. I made sure to give him a BIG hug afterward!

    I know exactly how you feel, Rachel. It’s hard not to get irritated with my husband when I feel like he needs to help me with something. And yet, when he tries to help, I get irritated because I’m all like, “Get away, dude. I can handle this. I’m not a weakling.” *sigh* Poor guy, he can’t win.

    Good for you that you kept your thoughts to yourself. I know it’s hard, but “re-training” our actions/reactions starts with baby steps. You should be proud of yourself and how sweet that you gave your man a hug afterward!

  29. Karen, I have a question…I have seen the movie and I intend to do the challenge, but my question is this. I have a harder time being patient with my kids than I do with my husband. Does it count if I do it on them instead for this day?

    Kristi, I’m not sure how to answer this. The challenge is to train yourself to have more patience with your spouse, but I hate to negate the work you accomplished with being patient with your children. I mean, having patience, on any level, is certainly a challenge.

  30. Love really is patient and holy cow I didn’t realize how impatient I have become. I had a baby three months ago and as I listened to myself speak today, I was shocked that I was so critical of the man I love.

    He was away all last week and I missed him SO much, yet he’s home three days and I must have criticized him enough for the week he was gone.

    So I’ve been quiet today and I held my tongue…ya know the saying if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all – it’s so true.

    Kari – good for you!! It’s amazing how critical we are and we don’t even realize it! That’s a big reason I thought the Love Dare would be a good thing to try – we’re all so wrapped up in life that sometimes seeing the problem is half the challenge. You have a three-month old baby though – cut yourself some slack. You have an extra burden of trying to balance you, your husband and your baby. I admire you for taking the challenge!

  31. I needed to go somewhere and my husband was holding me up. He knew how important this was but rather than fight I held my tongue. we got to the even on time without a big fight

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