Day-By-Day

Elephants are Cute, Book Sales Skyrocket, Separation of Church and State is in the First Amendment?

This …

… is the top of our media center (which is a fancy label to say “entertainment center”).

I’m somewhat obsessed with this mantle clock. I have no idea why. Maybe because Kevin and I both Googled the crap out of trying to find a clock that wasn’t too tall for this space and wouldn’t cost us an arm and a leg.

(Have you shopped for clocks lately? Have your smelling salts handy).

Also?

I love my elephants.

They’re actually book ends. But I love them. I think they’re adorable. I think I might have bought them from Pier One and … now that I think about it, I think Kevin actually bought these elephants. Because he’s the one who usually thinks outside the box.

Me? I’m lucky if I dare to open the lid far enough for a peek. That’s how unimaginative I am when it comes to house decor.

But, I’m liking our media center, I think it turned out nicely.

(Feel free to look a little more closely at the left and right sides, if you want).

I feel like I’ve walked into a showroom, only the stuff on display is MY stuff and it feels personal and …

… I have an unhealthy attachment to my media center. Just humor me, okay? πŸ˜‰

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I found out today that my mom was able to switch with someone at work and is now free to drive up to St. Louis with me on Saturday.

YAY!

My mom hasn’t had a chance to watch Jazz’s band perform so she is in for a real treat. I’m also looking forward to her watching a few other bands, which are equally awesome and quite spectacular.

It’s amazing how much talent these kids have – and I’m not just talking about Jazz’s band, but all of the other bands in these competitions, too.

It’s really quite mind blowing.

Also? I haven’t had a chance to spend any time with my mom for, geez, this past year really, so I’m looking forward to having a little girl time with her.

(Kevin has a gig so won’t be going. And I think Dude has had it up to his eyeballs with marching competitions).

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Books sales are phenomenal. We have sold 30 books in the past seven days.

Yes. I said THIRTY.

It really blows my mind, actually. These textbooks, that my dad so very graciously let us take off his hands, have been selling like hotcakes. One day, I mailed EIGHT.

The post office people are starting to recognize me. (And the lady who usually helps me is actually pretty cranky with other people, but she’s nice to me. Probably because I have everything ready to go and make her job easier. It amazes me the number of people who show up at the post office ill prepared. As in, their item isn’t even packaged).

But it’s getting old. I’m tempted to put my account into vacation mode just to take a break … but I won’t.

There is money to be made (and I need to get rid of these books. They’re taking over the garage).

[I didn’t even finish typing this entry and we sold another one. That’s 31 32 books in seven days. I’m tired just typing that].

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Speaking of books …

The Fall library book sale is this week. I want to go. I shouldn’t go.

We’re going tomorrow.

Kevin and I are planning on making a trip over there tomorrow after lunch. I think I’ll focus on trying to find nonfiction books as those seem to be selling better than my fiction ones.

Kevin doesn’t know about this plan, by the way. I’ll have to take out the trusty charm, dust her off and see if I can’t blind him with my sweet smile.

*cough*

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NaNoWriMo starts in ten days.

I’m trying not to panic about that little fact, but …

… I’m a bit panicked by that little fact.

I have done nothing.

Let me repeat that ..

N.O.T.H.I.N.G

I have a germ of an idea … and by that I mean,

“Oh, this idea might make an interesting story”

and that’s it. That’s as far as I’ve gotten. I have no idea where that idea might go – right now, it’s dangling on the end of a string surrounded by nothingness.

It’s quite sad, actually.

But never fear, I will come up with a tentative outline (and I say outline in the loosest sense of the word because I’m what you might call a “pantser” sort of writer – I write by the seat of my pants) before midnight, October 31st.

(Okay fine, it won’t even be then, it’ll be WHILE I’m writing utter nonsense).

Last year I wrote a series of short stories and vowed I would never do that again (I’m sort of notorious for saying “I’ll never do THAT again and then a few years later, I do it again), this year, I’m thinking of writing two novellas and somehow connecting them in some way.

I sort of have a fascination for stories that are written to go together but could easily be read separately and still be understood. I’d like to try that again, only on a larger scale this time.

I think Kevin and I will also drop by Staples tomorrow so I can pick out a fun binder to put my project in.

Kevin will not be expecting this stop, either.

I’m sort of sneaky like that.

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Did you KNOW that Michelle Obama wore the SAME SWEATER only she TURNED IT AROUND AND WORE IT DIFFERENT!!!

*GASP*

I know.

Can you believe that was on the front page of Yahoo today??

AND …

Did you know that “The separation of church and state” is NOT in the constitution? That the amendment that everyone (and by everyone, I mean liberals) refers to actually says:

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

The phrase -‘separation of church and state’ – originated from a letter Thomas Jefferson wrote to a persecuted Baptist minority group in 1802 entitled “A Wall of Separation.”

And this little constitutional lesson stems from this little tidbit in the news today and from the fact that a prominent blogger brought this issue up in a very snotty way on Twitter today and snickered about how smart Christine O’Donnell was in that she didn’t know anything about our constitution.

*pause for dramatic effect here*

Spin is such a nasty little tool, isn’t it?

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And that’s all the brain power I can muster at this late hour (it’s 11:34 p.m.).

Good night.

Sleep tight.

Don’t let the bed bugs bite.

Ugh. That saying has such realistic ring to it nowadays, doesn’t it?

Life

Elbow Deep in Books

We now have over 500 books in my Amazon Book store.

And we have about eight more bags to add.

The boys and I have been playing tag team on cataloging books. We’re storing the books in the garage because we simply don’t have room in the house (hence my laptop out in the garage – WiFi rocks, doesn’t it?) Dude puts in four bags, Jazz puts in four bags, and I take care of the challenging items. (DVD’s and misc. merchandise … which isn’t listed on Amazon, so I may end up selling it on eBay).

If you’re just tuning in, my dad cleaned out his office. He used to write online classes for a series of electronic and computer programming classes. The school he worked for sent him A LOT of material for those classes and when he retired, he wanted to get rid of them. Knowing I had an Amazon book store, he gave the material to us (a whole TRUCK load of stuff) and the boys and I have been busy cataloging the books ever since.

At first, the boys didn’t quite understand the earning potential behind this little venture.

However, they got it today.

We sold six books yesterday – SIX TEXTBOOKS. Textbooks bring in big bucks, especially when they are in “new” condition, which most of these books were. We have a certain “code” we put into the book’s notes so I can tell who cataloged the book. That person is then responsible for packaging the book and then taking it to the post office. (If it’s Jazz, then I have to take him since he can’t drive yet. If it’s Dude, he can drive himself). That boy in turn, gets the proceeds (minus postage).

I taught the boys how to package it and Dude and I drove up to the post office so I could teach him what to say and what to expect so that the next time, he can do it on his own.

Even though the boys are QUITE pleased with the dollar amount they got for the books that sold, I still don’t think they really get it. Amazon deposits any money we’ve made from the book store into our checking account every two weeks and the next cycle won’t be for another two weeks, so the boys haven’t received the money … yet. But as soon as Amazon pays us, we’ll pay the boys. (I’ve got a list started).

Cataloging books is quite tedious and a bit time consuming and the pay off only has POTENTIAL – there’s no guarantee the books will sell, but any money they make? Will be more than they had to begin with.

(By the way, the Fall library book sale begins next week. I shouldn’t go, I really shouldn’t – if we have to store any more books, Kevin is likely to go crazy, but I simply don’t know how I CAN’T go, I mean, BOOKS … FOR CHEAP?? I must go. There’s really no way I can’t go. It’s a sickness, I tell ya. Do me a favor? Go shop in my Amazon book store, take some books off my hands. :D)

Life

Don’t Say the “M” Word

This was first published on my Blogger blog, January 24, 2005.

Oh my gosh. Good grief. Holy cow. Monkey tails. Innocent sayings in lieu of profanity. It warms my heart to hear my children, playing in the back room (they get one hour of video game time on school nights) to hear them exclaim, “Oh my gosh! He stole my hat AGAIN.” (Gosh, instead of taking God’s name in vain).

We must be doing something right. In today’s society it seems the norm for people/children to simply utter curse words. I can’t preach too loudly, I rather have a potty mouth on me – especially when I’m angry. (I have a fierce temper!) It makes me feel proud and guilty all at the same time when the kids are quick to point out, “Mom! You said a bad word.” Does it make it okay to say curse words when you’re angry?

What’s the alternative?

I tell my children, “it’s sometimes okay to say bad words when you’re angry.” Their eyes grow large and you can just tell they are dying to try out a few, just let them roll off the tongue, all in the name of “testing the waters.” However, I have yet to hear them. I do hear Dude mumble under his breath from time to time and as long as I don’t actually “hear” the words, I let it go. But is it okay to teach them to curse under duress?

I suppose my rationale for that is – it’s better than hitting or throwing something. It’s better than verbally hurting another individual for their own bad mood/disappointment. It’s better than them holding in the anger and turning to drugs or something equally damaging. In my book, it’s the lesser of two (or several) evils. Does that make it right?

What exactly is offensive about these “bad” words? After all, they are only words. A series of letters put together in a random order. And have you ever wondered who exactly deemed these words “bad?” My boys ask me that sometimes, I have no clue. Not only is it decided that that particular word will be considered “foul” but what motivates people to agree? I mean, for instance, I could start a rumor that the word “mud” is now a bad word. If you say mud, then you’re a bad person and should have your mouth washed out with soap. (Soap: a dirty word for some people, let me tell you).

“But why is mud a bad word?” you might ask. “Because it implies all things dirty, therefore, it’s a bad word.” I guess if my explanation sounds good, you might go along with it and say, “Okay. From here on out, mud is a dirty word.” Now comes the problem of publicizing it. Does one pay the media to start running ads about the newest taboo word? Can a person go to the bank and say, “I’m wanting to borrow some money so I can advertise the newest curse word.” Are bad words the product of a domino affect? For instance, have you ever played this game: stand outside in a crowded area, look up and point. Act fascinated. I GUARANTEE you’ll have people stopping around you and looking up to see what you’re looking at.

Is that how the birth of a bad word happens?

Someone just says, “My pigs were having a heyday in the mud today.” *GASP* “Please tell me you did not just say the M word.”

“The M word?” your confused friend asks.

“Yes! Haven’t you heard?” (This would be a good time to look around for any people who might be listening. Really heighten the suspense). “It’s a bad word,” you hiss.

Are people so willing to fit into society that they would go along with it? What does that say about our society?

Relationships

The “Business” Side of a Good Marriage

Let me let you in on a little secret – I dig relationships. Not just mine, but relationships in general. I’m fascinated with how people get along, what exactly makes one person attracted to another? What makes a marriage work and another one fail? Can you fall out of love? Or is that just an excuse to stop trying and/or adapting to relationship changes?

I’ve been married for 20 + years now. (My parents will have been married 46 years on Saturday!! Happy anniversary mom and dad!). Though I’m certainly not an expert, I think it’s safe to say, I have a little experience when it comes to this marriage gig.

I have strong opinions about marriage. In fact, I wrote a whole series of posts on relationships complete with tips on how to make your own relationship work as well as a pretty personal look at my own over the years. (You can always click on the “Love Dare” tab at the top of the page for these relationship posts).

Anyway, there are two relationship blogs that never fail to make me think: Project Happily Ever After and Marriage Gems.

There was an article on Marriage Gems that I found interesting: it’s called Manage Your Marriage Like a Business

Here’s a summary of the article’s points:

  • 1. Know your customer. Stay in tune with your spouse’s changing needs, hopes, and concerns. If you’re not sure what they are, ask.
  • 2. Earn their business every day. Just as you would impress clients with attention and treat them with respect, do the same for your partner.
  • 3. Don’t make excuses. Customers (and spouses) want solutions, not excuses. When you make a mistake, acknowledge your error, and then fix it.
  • 4. Work on a win-win strategy. Regularly ask your spouse, β€œWhat can I do to help you be successful?” Then follow through with what they need. Use your planning skills to balance the family’s needs, for example if one spouses is putting their career on hold to raise children.
  • 5. Mix business with pleasure. β€œWe seldom give our spouses the rewarding experiences we give our best customers. Find ways to inject new life into your relationship via activities that have no purpose other than to say, β€˜You matter.’”

Would you agree with this assessment? Overall, yes, I would.

I’ve often thought people treated their co-workers/constituents nicer than their spouses. I’ve seen, first hand, how my boss would be super nice to his clients and then just treat his wife like dirt. I’m sure he was tired and taking his frustrations out on her, but I’m also sure that was wrong of him to do.

I’ve also seen spouses treat each other like they were their employee instead of their partners.

We put a lot of energy and thought into our careers, it’s always puzzled me why people don’t put that much energy or thought into their relationships. Yes. It’s work. Yes, it’s HARD work. Yes, one must be willing to admit he/she is wrong and be willing to swallow a humility pill now and again, but the rewards are worth the effort.

To achieve measurable results, simply transfer to your home life the skills you’ve acquired to succeed in your career. You can build or rebuild a strong family dynamic the same way you built your companyβ€”with great customer service.

Life-condensed

Homework Central

So apparently? I’m not enemy number for one for Dude, at least, not tonight.

Probably because he needed my help on a project for the class he absolutely hates this quarter – meteorology. (He told me he doesn’t hate the subject matter, but rather, all of the work the teacher piles on them. But his counselor DID warn him that it was a hard class, so it’s not like this is a big surprise).

He’s supposed to write a four-page critique on the movie, “Twister,” (which they watched together in class) and put it in an attractive format, complete with graphics. I suggested Microsoft Publisher, showed a few tricks on how to manipulate the template to look like he wanted and suddenly, I’m the boy’s best friend.

*sigh*

He even talked to me a bit tonight.

Don’t worry, I savored every last minute, I assure you.

This project is due tomorrow.

I wonder where he gets the procrastination gene from?

It can’t be me, I never procrastinate. *ahem*

I hope this “good will toward mom” lasts through the weekend, because him, me and Kevin are going to watch Jazz’s band compete in a marching band competition on Saturday and we’ll be stuck in the car together for nearly six long hours (three down there, three back).

The trip will be so much more pleasant if he’s not snarling at me.