Friday Fun, Life

Fleeting Thoughts

MK is mad at me.

Which he really doesn’t have a right to be because he only brought this on himself.

MK is grounded – sort of.

We have a “retain privileges” policy in our home, and it’s tied directly to their “job”, i.e. school and their grades. If the boys keep in the A to C+ range, they get to keep their unlimited video/computer play time. If their grade drops to a C or a C-, then their play time is reduced to three hours, but still unlimited time on the weekends. If their grades drop in the D+ to F range, they lose all play time, period. They will get it back when they raise their grades.

Simple, right?

MK has been blowing school off. He’s now a solid “C” student. This is very disappointing because MK is not an average kid – he’s definitely above average. He’s a smart kid – he’s just being a turdwad right now. I’ve been warning the boy for weeks now that his grades were dropping, that if he didn’t buckle down and get serious, he was going to lose that precious play time. He blew me off and would not take any suggestions I gave him to get more organized (his excuse being that he “forgot” – I hate that excuse). So, now we’re at the stage where his play time has been reduced and he has no one to blame but himself.

This is especially bad because today? Friday? The kids are out of school – it’s a teacher workday. This means that MK only has three hours to play all day today. Bummer. On top of that, I promised the boys that the next short break they could purchase a new game for the Xbox (with their own money), so GD purchased it. And MK is DYING to play it. But I told him no, because it’s just another distraction from his “work.” He needs to quit blowing school off and get his work done. We don’t reward mediocre work, ESPECIALLY when I know the boy is more than capable of doing better, he’s just choosing not to. (His attitude has been SUCKING lately – but that’s a post for another time).

He’s furious and I say TOUGH. However, before you think I’m too cruel, consider this.: MK wasn’t all that interested in bringing his grades up UNTIL GD bought this new game and he couldn’t play it. Suddenly, he’s taking an active interest in bringing his grades back up. It’s all about motivation in our household.


We’re going to a high school football game tonight. And I’m really looking forward to it. I haven’t been to a high school football game since … well, high school. GD’s school is playing my husband’s Alma Mater – that should be fun. πŸ˜€ MK is playing with the high school band to give him a little glimpse about what it will be like to be part of a high school band. (They’re prepping the kids because so many kids lose interest in playing music and drop out of band by the time they get to be in high school).

It’s supposed to be a chilly evening – perfect weather to cozy up with my husband in a blanket and drink hot cocoa. GD is not really looking forward to going, but he’s not exactly being a jerk about it, either. I think he’s curious, quite frankly. He’s not thrilled about hanging out with his parents, though. We did offer him to invite one of his buds along and they could sit somewhere else, but he just shrugged and said, “Nah.” So, I’m thinking it’s not embarrassing him that much. I’ll try to take some pictures to share with you all.


We canceled MK’s music lessons. And we have vetoed the black saxophone purchase – it’s just too freaking expensive, folks. Though we are using the money that would have gone to lessons and putting that aside to save for an intermediate saxophone – a compromise, if you will. The saxophones we were looking at were professional grade – hence the price. This way, we’ll build more equity in his rental and then that, paired with our savings, we’ll be able to buy MK a better saxophone without having to take out a loan. And, if it gets a bit banged up, we won’t freak out quite as much as we would if it was professional quality.

MK was pretty bummed about not getting a black saxophone, but he’s okay with this compromise. I think he might be just a tad relieved that he won’t be responsible for carrying a $3,000 saxophone around. That’s just too much pressure for a 13-year old boy.


I’ve started my Christmas shopping. The husband and I ran into some little candy mushroom containers (from the Mario series) at Hallmark. So I bought a couple to put into the boys’ stockings. I also found something for the husband’s stocking, but I can’t tell you because he reads my blog. (Hi honey!)

I’ve asked the boys and my folks to make a wish list. October is generally when I start my shopping because I like to stretch it out so we can pay our credit card bill off as we go along as opposed to being slapped in the face with a huge debt in January.

Here’s a tip if you’re shopping online: if you find yourself shopping at a store that you haven’t shopped at before or you don’t quite trust (you know the shops I’m talking about), then check to see if your credit card company has some sort of “virtual” account number program.

For example, we use a Citibank credit card. We use it for everything – we don’t carry cash and we don’t write checks. This way, we’re earning frequent flyer points so we can cash them in every few years and fly for virtually nothing (we went to Washington D.C. this past summer for $40.00 – for all four of us!!). One of their benefits is their virtual account number program. So, for example, when I bought the husband’s stocking stuffer the other day, I went through a website I wasn’t familiar with. To be on the safe side, I obtained an alternative credit card number from Citibank so I didn’t have to use our regular number. It’s a temporary number they assign you that’s only good for one purchase before it expires. So, if someone tries to steal it, it won’t work. And by using a temporary number, thieves won’t have access to our account.

This happened last year. We bought something for GD on a questionable website and before we knew it, someone tried to use our card. Our credit card company, being on the ball, caught the unusual transactions and notified us immediately. We shut the number down and was re-issued another one. Now, to prevent that from happening to us in the future (because we do a lot of online shopping), we use a temporary card number.

I highly recommend it.


I bought a funky pink notebook to put my NaNoWriMo project in at Staples yesterday. It’s called a “hybrid” notebook – it’s half notebook, half binder. (Have you noticed “hybrid” is the new buzzword?) It’s pretty cool and I’m really looking forward to filling it. Speaking of NaNoWriMo, I’ll be posting excerpts from my prologue every Thursday in November. Hopefully, it’ll make you want to read more!


Banned Books Week runs through Monday. I found this little gem on BoingBoing just now.


Adrienne sez, “We’ve created a ‘live’ Banned Book Display at our library [Twin Hickory Public Library, Glen Allen, VA]. We have volunteer readers who sit in the display and read (silently) banned and challenged books. So far it’s gotten a lot of attention – we hear a lot of ‘Mom, what are those people doing in there?’ The best part has been hearing parents explain to their kids what the display is all about which is exactly what we wanted to happen!”

HAHA! Isn’t that awesome!! I love the “See Live Humans Read” caption. Too funny!! And I love how it’s prompting questions from our young people – the minute you make something a big deal, it is. It’s better to talk about these things and educate our children correctly than leaving it up to them to find erroneous answers.


THE OCTOBER PHOTO CONTEST STARTS TOMORROW!! You can check out the details here.


I just ate three donuts – I have to do Turbo Jam now.

Bye.

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Life

Debating the “Facts”

I’m sorry, I don’t mean to turn this blog into a political forum, but don’t you find all of these misquotes and incorrect assumptions, from both parties, just fascinating? If checking Factcheck.org teaches you anything it should be this – politicians like to twist, turn, stretch, distort and exaggerate the truth all in order to make themselves look good – NO ONE is being completely straight with you – remember that.

It’s amazing that we can believe anything they say at all. Isn’t it sad that we’ve been reduced to vote for the lesser of two evils? I know that 98% of all political campaigns are like this, but now, right now, it’s more important than ever, with our economy on the edge of a cliff, flailing it’s arms in a desperate attempt to find its balance once again, to get an administration in there that will champion the people.

Is that even possible?

Did you watch the Vice Presidential debate last night? I wasn’t going to – I honestly wasn’t. But the husband turned it on and the voices lured me in. I think both candidates did very well. I disagreed with Biden on everything but what we should do in Iraq and Afganistan – I definitely think we need to issue a timeline and give the people a chance to govern their own countries for a change. I don’t know what channel you watched the debates on, but we watched it on a channel that kept track of the audience’s reaction and it was really interesting to see how it would fluctuate over the candidates’ spiel on different issues.

Here is a summary of the debate from Factcheck.org:

Biden and Palin debated, and both mangled some facts.

* Palin mistakenly claimed that troop levels in Iraq had returned to β€œpre-surge” levels. Levels are gradually coming down but current plans would have levels higher than pre-surge numbers through early next year, at least.

* Biden incorrectly said β€œJohn McCain voted the exact same way” as Obama on a controversial troop funding bill. The two were actually on opposite sides.

* Palin repeated a false claim that Obama once voted in favor of higher taxes on β€œfamilies” making as little as $42,000 a year. He did not. The budget bill in question called for an increase only on singles making that amount, but a family of four would not have been affected unless they made at least $90,000 a year.

* Biden wrongly claimed that McCain β€œvoted the exact same way” as Obama on the budget bill that contained an increase on singles making as little as $42,000 a year. McCain voted against it. Biden was referring to an amendment that didn’t address taxes at that income level.

* Palin claimed McCain’s health care plan would be β€œbudget neutral,” costing the government nothing. Independent budget experts estimate McCain’s plan would cost tens of billions each year, though details are too fuzzy to allow for exact estimates.

* Biden wrongly claimed that McCain had said “he wouldn’t even sit down” with the president of Spain. Actually, McCain didn’t reject a meeting, but simply refused to commit himself one way or the other during an interview.

* Palin wrongly claimed that β€œmillions of small businesses” would see tax increases under Obama’s tax proposals. At most, several hundred thousand business owners would see increases.

For full details on these misstatements, and on additional factual disputes and dubious claims, please read on to the Analysis section.

All I know is … given the fact that no one in the political arena ever really tells us the truth, how can we possibly entertain the fact that we need MORE government in our lives? That just seems so counter-productive to me.

Oh, and a quick sidenote: I LOVED what Palin said about the media: “I like being able to answer these tough questions without the filter, even, of the mainstream media kind of telling viewers what they’ve just heard. I’d rather be able to just speak to the American people like we just did”.

Amen. Wouldn’t that be refreshing great? If the media would just report the facts and keep their snotty, biased opinions to themselves? The media just steams my broccoli.

In conclusion, here are some of my favorite quotes from their closing statements:

Palin: I’ve been there. I know what the hurts are. I know what the challenges are. And, thank God, I know what the joys are, too, of living in America. We are so blessed. And I’ve always been proud to be an American.

Biden: You know, in the neighborhood I grew up in, it was all about dignity and respect. A neighborhood like most of you grew up in. And in that neighborhood, it was filled with women and men, mothers and fathers who taught their children if they believed in themselves, if they were honest, if they worked hard, if they loved their country, they could accomplish anything. We believed it, and we did.

If they only practiced what they preached – think what a better country we’d live in!

Life

Are You Checking the Facts?

The political arena is heating up and there are more and more rumors and TV ads being released out into a gullible public. Please take everything you read and hear with a grain of salt and keep your emotions out of it – weed through the rhetoric and learn where the candidates REALLY stand so that when it comes time to vote, you vote for the best candidate.

Which, I’m sorry to say, is neither candidate for me at this point. Though I would still rather have a Republican president than a Democratic one for the simple reason we need to get government out of lives – look what happens when government people/programs rule our lives – a collapsed economy.

I won’t pretend I understand half of what is being discussed right now, but I ran across this tidbit about our economic crisis on Factcheck.org and thought I would pass it along.

The Real Deal

So who is to blame? There’s plenty of blame to go around, and it doesn’t fasten only on one party or even mainly on what Washington did or didn’t do. As The Economist magazine noted recently, the problem is one of “layered irresponsibility … with hard-working homeowners and billionaire villains each playing a role.” Here’s a partial list of those alleged to be at fault:

* The Federal Reserve, which slashed interest rates after the dot-com bubble burst, making credit cheap.

* Home buyers, who took advantage of easy credit to bid up the prices of homes excessively.

* Congress, which continues to support a mortgage tax deduction that gives consumers a tax incentive to buy more expensive houses.

* Real estate agents, most of whom work for the sellers rather than the buyers and who earned higher commissions from selling more expensive homes.

* The Clinton administration, which pushed for less stringent credit and downpayment requirements for working- and middle-class families.

* Mortgage brokers, who offered less-credit-worthy home buyers subprime, adjustable rate loans with low initial payments, but exploding interest rates.

* Former Federal Reserve chairman Alan Greenspan, who in 2004, near the peak of the housing bubble, encouraged Americans to take out adjustable rate mortgages.

* Wall Street firms, who paid too little attention to the quality of the risky loans that they bundled into Mortgage Backed Securities (MBS), and issued bonds using those securities as collateral.

* The Bush administration, which failed to provide needed government oversight of the increasingly dicey mortgage-backed securities market.

* An obscure accounting rule called mark-to-market, which can have the paradoxical result of making assets be worth less on paper than they are in reality during times of panic.

* Collective delusion, or a belief on the part of all parties that home prices would keep rising forever, no matter how high or how fast they had already gone up.

The U.S. economy is enormously complicated. Screwing it up takes a great deal of cooperation. Claiming that a single piece of legislation was responsible for (or could have averted) is just political grandstanding. We have no advice to offer on how best to solve the financial crisis. But these sorts of partisan caricatures can only make the task more difficult.

–by Joe Miller and Brooks Jackson

You can view Factcheck’s sources here.

Stay focused folks. You’re being lied to and the government (both parties!) will do everything in their power to make you hand over more and more of your hard-earned money. When are we going to put our foot down and say ENOUGH?!

Book Corner, Giveaway/Contests

BAFAB: Deadline October 2nd

IT’S TIME TO ANNOUNCE THE WINNER!

CONGRATULATIONS GO TO … JUDY!!

BAFAB October 2008 Winner

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So how does this work, you ask? Here’s the short version, I’m participating in the program and would love to buy someone a book of their choice ($15 max). If you would like to put your name into the pot and win a free book, please enter your name in the comment section below. If I draw your name October 2nd then I’ll buy you a book!

Winner will be announced on Write From Karen after 11:00 a.m. (U.S. central time) October 2nd.

And … if any of you are feeling generous and would like to buy ME a book, I’ve included a link to my Amazon.com wish list to make it easy for you. πŸ˜€

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Thursday Thirteen

Thirteen (More) Common Writing Mistakes

I hope posting these tips help you. I hope they don’t bore you. (Obviously, the baby shown here is pretty bored with these language posts). But this sort of stuff interests me and being the self-absorbed peon that I am, I always assume anything that interests me, interests YOU. If I’m wrong, I do apologize. πŸ˜€

I did not write these tips. These tips, and many more like these, can be found at Common Errors in English. So, if you disagree with these rules, then please, don’t kill the messenger. These are here just for your learning/entertainment, nothing more, and nothing less.

Now that you know my disclaimer, let’s move on to the juicy stuff … *rubs hands together in glee* …

1. ALRIGHT/ALL RIGHT: The correct form of this phrase has become so rare in the popular press that many readers have probably never noticed that it is actually two words. But if you want to avoid irritating traditionalists you’d better tell them that you feel β€œall right” rather than β€œalright.”

2. ALTAR/ALTER: An altar is that platform at the front of a church or in a temple; to alter something is to change it.

3. ALTOGETHER/ALL TOGETHER: β€œAltogether” is an adverb meaning β€œcompletely,” β€œentirely.” For example: β€œWhen he first saw the examination questions, he was altogether baffled.” β€œAll together,” in contrast, is a phrase meaning β€œin a group.” For example: β€œThe wedding guests were gathered all together in the garden.” Undressed people are said in informal speech to be β€œin the altogether” (perhaps a shortening of the phrase β€œaltogether naked” ).

4. ALUMNUS/ALUMNI: We used to have β€œalumnus” (male singular), β€œalumni” (male plural), β€œalumna” (female singular) and β€œalumnae” (female plural); but the latter two are now popular only among older female graduates, with the first two terms becoming unisex. However, it is still important to distinguish between one alumnus and a stadium full of alumni. Never say, β€œI am an alumni” if you don’t want to cast discredit on your school. Many avoid the whole problem by resorting to the informal abbreviation β€œalum.”

5. AMBIGUOUS/AMBIVALENT: Even though the prefix β€œambi-” means β€œboth,” β€œambiguous” has come to mean β€œunclear,” β€œundefined,” while β€œambivalent” means β€œtorn between two opposing feelings or views.” If your attitude cannot be defined into two polarized alternatives, then you’re ambiguous, not ambivalent.

6. AMORAL/IMMORAL: β€œAmoral” is a rather technical word meaning β€œunrelated to morality.” When you mean to denounce someone’s behavior, call it β€œimmoral.”

7. ANCESTOR/DESCENDANT: When Albus Dumbledore said that Lord Voldemort was β€œthe last remaining ancestor of Salazar Slytherin,” more than one person noted that he had made a serious verbal bumble; and in later printings of Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets author J. K. Rowling corrected that to β€œlast remaining descendant.” People surprisingly often confuse these two terms with each other. Your great-grandmother is your ancestor; you are her descendant.

8. AND ALSO/AND, ALSO: β€œAnd also” is redundant; say just β€œand” or β€œalso.”

9. AND/OR: The legal phrase β€œand/or,” indicating that you can either choose between two alternatives or choose both of them, has proved irresistible in other contexts and is now widely acceptable though it irritates some readers as jargon. However, you can logically use it only when you are discussing choices which may or may not both be done: β€œBring chips and/or beer.” It’s very much overused where simple β€œor” would do, and it would be wrong to say, β€œyou can get to the campus for this morning’s meeting on a bike and/or in a car.” Choosing one eliminates the possibility of the other, so this isn’t an and/or situation.

10. ANECDOTE/ANTIDOTE: A humorist relates β€œanecdotes.” The doctor prescribes β€œantidotes” for children who have swallowed poison. Laughter may be the best medicine, but that’s no reason to confuse these two with each other.

11. ANGEL/ANGLE: People who want to write about winged beings from Heaven often miscall them β€œangles.” A triangle has three angles. The Heavenly Host is made of angels. Just remember the adjectival form: β€œangelic.” If you pronounce it aloud you’ll be reminded that the E comes before the L.

12. ANXIOUS/EAGER: Most people use β€œanxious” interchangeably with β€œeager,” but its original meaning had to do with worrying, being full of anxiety. Perfectly correct phrases like, β€œanxious to please” obscure the nervous tension implicit in this word and lead people to say less correct things like β€œI’m anxious for Christmas morning to come so I can open my presents.” Traditionalists frown on anxiety-free anxiousness. Say instead you are eager for or looking forward to a happy event.

13. ASCRIBE/SUBSCRIBE:If you agree with a theory or belief, you subscribe to it, just as you subscribe to a magazine. Ascribe is a very different word. If you ascribe a belief to someone, you are attributing the belief to that person, perhaps wrongly.

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Life-condensed

Not Your Typical Female

I think there is something seriously wrong with me.

I don’t like to shop. I could give a monkey’s butt whether my home decor matches or not (overly much). I love shoes, but I do not obsess over shoes and I would rather go to my OB-GYN than shop for clothes – okay, maybe not, but it’s CLOSE.

And I look like Sarah Palin – at least, according to my husband’s family. Personally? I don’t see it. I have brown hair and brown eyes and that’s where the resemblance ends, in my opinion. Palin is gorgeous. Me? I scare babies on GOOD days.

But I digress …

We went to the hospital last night to have a pizza party with Nanny, who’s stuck in the hospital recovering from pneumonia. (She looked MUCH better!!) And we’re loud enough that we chase every other non-family member out of the waiting room.

We have the place to ourselves.

We laugh. We joke. And I listen to my sisters-in-law swap stories about people they know from church and/or homeschool co-op because they both homeschool their four kids – each.

I’m left out in left field – as usual.

They don’t mean to exclude me, it’s just they are together, face-to-face, for like the first time in weeks and they naturally want to catch up. Me? I’m the black sheep in the family because I’ve opted to send my boys to public school.

It’s a thorn that never really gets plucked. And I’m not going to pluck it now.

But I’m sitting there, listening to both my SIL’s and my MIL talk about the great deals at TJ Maxx and I’m thinking, “What? Who has time to shop? Who WANTS to shop? Who wants to spend that kind of money on clothes/shoes/home decor when there are electronic gadgets to buy and play with!”

Clearly, I’m strange. I feel so … unfeminine around them (is that even a word?)

The husband and I talked about this the other day when he went over to a co-worker’s house (to drop off a grill – long story), and commented about how GORGEOUS their house was. He lamented on the fact that he would like to have a big brick house like that someday.

My response? “You REALLY want to spend all that money just to live in a fancy-smancy house with fancy-smancy stuff?”

He thought about it for a minute and shook his head.

I didn’t think so. And I concur. We’d rather pay off bills and use the extra money to buy new computers, cameras, and every other cool gadget that comes out.

I felt really strange listening to my in-law family talk about everything that I could care less about.

I think that’s a big reason why I don’t have a best girlfriend – I’m not your typical female, I guess.

Bummer.