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My question:
While on a trip to another city, your spouse (or lover) meets and spends the night with an exciting stranger. Given that they will never meet again, and that you will likely never learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it? If roles were reversed, would you reveal what you had done?
My answer:
No. Ignorance is bliss.
And yet … here’s the thing. If my man cheated once, wouldn’t he be tempted to cheat again? I mean, once you cross that line, isn’t it easier to cross the second go-around?
And if he feels compelled to cheat – why? Is it me? Could I be better to him? Do I nag him? Have I let myself go? Is he still attracted to me? Have I changed? And is that a bad thing?
Granted, I would be very angry with him for a while, but once the anger wore off and I started looking at the situation rationally, would I want to keep the marriage going after that betrayal? Could we salvage it? Would I ever trust him again? And what about my vindictive streak? Would I want to seek revenge by having my own affair?
What sort of relationship would we have after this?
There are so many questions, so many doubts, just thinking about this scenario, I can’t imagine actually living it. And I guess my biggest question would be – would I want to?
There is no cut-and-dried answer to this question. It would all depend on the people involved, the history of the relationship and how we felt about each other.
But I think, overall, I wouldn’t want to know, quite frankly.
What about you?
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